The other day I posted a question on my Facebook asking if “age really mattered in dating?” The responses I got back were all varied and everyone had their own opinion. Some people thought yes it definitely matters, while others took a different approach. Others thought it was more about the individual as opposed to the actual age, meaning if the person was mature or grounded then age shouldn’t matter.
It becomes very common, especially here in Los Angeles to see older men with younger women, it’s almost like second nature. But what about women dating younger men? Let’s be honest, we’ve grown comfortable with seeing an older man with a younger woman. Sure we may not accept it, but
it’s everywhere so we’re conditioned it’s there and it is what it is. However if you see a woman dating a younger man we think “cougar”, she likes to be in control and what have you.
So lets break it down. What are the advantages and disadvantages of dating a younger man? The advantages are youthfulness means an eagerness to try and experience new things. A younger man is more moldable. A younger man can keep up with you in ways that’ll make you blush. A younger man reminds you of your own youthfulness and in return you feel more alive.
Sounds like a winning package. But are there disadvantages? Sure, sometimes a younger man means he’s less secure financially, which means you’ll be buying dinner. If you’re concerned about what people think, then you can be guaranteed raised eyebrows everywhere you go. Lack of life experience can show up when you need someone to relate to. So while you’re trying to intimately connect with your guy, there may be those pressing issues he’ll just never get until he grows up a lot more.
So what do you do if you’re a woman who’s ready to date, but you feel the men your age are too set in their ways? Do you conform and put up with their ego, their stubbornness? Or do you date a younger man? Sure he may not understand social cue’s, stocks and IRA’s, but he makes you feel young, he challenges you to live more in life. Dating can be confusing, and finding the right path may not always be clear cut, but the first thing you always want to do is start by asking yourself the right questions.
What do I want? Do I care what people think? What am I willing to sacrifice? Am I willing to sacrifice?