So many times I talk to guys that are frustrated.
They're frustrated with women, they're frustrated with dating and most of the time they're just frustrated with life in general.
For the guys struggling with the frustrations of dating, they often come to me with the solution to their pain, "If only women would approach me, then everything would be so much better for me."
If that's all it took, then I would imagine their would be a whole lot less frustrated singles out there. However I'm convinced that even if women did approach men, this would not solve their frustration.
Let me just set the record straight here by saying that yes, I don't see anything wrong in regards to a woman approaching a man. In fact I'm a huge advocate of men or women, going after what they want. Which may entail a woman approaching a man. (Don't believe me? Watch this video Women Approaching Men)
However, a woman not approaching a man isn't his biggest dilemma.
No his dilemma is within himself.
When a man says "I'd rather women approach me", what they're saying is, "I really don't want to take this risk of getting rejected....again."
These guy are frustrated and not only are the frustrated, they're hurt.
They've approached plenty of women, they've gone on plenty of dates and it hasn't gotten them where they wanted to be.
Or you have the guys who have thought about approaching women, but haven't done a damn thing about it.
I get it, feeling frustrated and hurt isn't a place any of us want to be. Once you've heard no one too many times, the feeling to give up only seems natural.
And if you've overthought dating to the point that you actually never do approach a woman, chances are you won't.
However the feelings of frustration and/or despair, are the same feelings that will stop women from approaching you.
Why? Women are intuitive and we when we feel the "stay away, I'm pissed vibe", that's exactly what we'll do.
Rejection is never fun babe, but staying in rejection will not serve you whatsoever. In fact, it will only keep you single and frustrated.
Have a good chat with yourself and ask what's really important. And if meeting your dream girl is important to you, ask yourself if you're willing to put rejection on the back burner.