Have you ever thought of why you’re out Dating? Random question, right? While this may seem like a simple question to ask oneself, it’s well worth asking.
Many moon’s ago, okay more like 4-5 years ago, I was going through a dating rut. I was living in LA and in LA, a girl can really spend every evening dating, if she wanted to. Needless to say, I was dating quite a bit. However, I kept finding myself really frustrated with it all, so I decided to talk to a girlfriend about it.
After a night of one too many Vodka Sugar-Free Redbulls and wild dancing, the next morning my friend and I decided to hike Runyon Canyon, hangovers in full motion. Excellent idea, right? Wrong! After almost falling off the side of the Canyon, we decided it might be a good idea to get some food in our system, so we decided to head over to Melrose for a good, sobering up, kind of a brunch.
Over brunch (LA brunches are the best, nothing like sunshine, cool shades and an amazing meal!), I decided to vent out my frustration to my friend about my whole dating life. I told her about the dates I was going on, the kind of guys I was dating, where it was fun and where I was just absolutely annoyed.
In the midst of chatting (tomorrow I’ll be writing about why “friendships” are so imperative to have and how they help with dating/relationships), I said something that I hadn’t really processed. ”You know, I just want that feeling again, I want to be in love again!” I had been single for awhile and having a roommate at the time, who had and awesome relationship, triggered me to definitely want more.
That’s when my girlfriend just about slapped me upside the head and said “Arica, duh, that’s why you’re frustrated. The guys you’re dating are not guys that you actually want a meaningful relationship with!” Why couldn’t I see that? She was so right. I was dating to have fun, but ignoring the major source of my frustration. I was looking for more than just mere fun.
Asking yourself the simple question “Why am I dating?” Can be a huge tool to be that guiding compass to keep and get you to your desired destination.
So here are a few questions I want you to ask yourself:
When’s the last time you’ve checked out your compass? Is it broken or have you just been ignoring it? Well now’s the perfect time to pay attention again. So here’s my question to you, “Why Are You Dating?”