I’ve lived in lots of different areas, it’s the adventurous free spirited side of me that loves to explore and seek new journeys. Whenever I moved to a new place there were always new things to learn and ways to adapt to flow with the personality and culture of the area. From California to Ohio and then across the pond in England, needless to say I have been able to experience lots of variety. And I absolutely love it!
However despite how much I’ve done my best to embrace the environment in which I lived there was one thing that I would never change. Me. In England there were lots of roads with cobblestones and for anyone who had enough sense, proper shoes to walk around in were worn. Having no sense and a love for fashion, I opted to wear stilettos, even on the cobblestones.
Whilst living in Northern California one of the biggest fashion trends in the area were scarfs. The gals there wore scarfs for what seemed to be any and every occasion. I chose to refrain from this fashion choice and never ever wore a scarf. Why, because I love my individuality.
I remember being in my early twenties and still feeling pretty clueless as to whom I truly was. While at a party with some friends, I had a girlfriend take the mic out of me (that’s British for making fun or teasing me) for my many sides to my personality. She said “Arica who are you? I mean you have this fashion side to you that’s always dressed up, but then you can be this complete ghetto girl by constantly mimicking slang.” On top of that, my personality was really loud and to some degree still is.
Naturally being so young at the time, my feelings were quite hurt by her question and I felt like I needed to be more reserved and pull back some. That lasted for about 5 minutes and then my loud personality was back into full swing. Despite my many attempts to quiet myself and just fit in, it has never worked out for me.
Progressing with age I have learned that my internal fight to remain unique has stayed consistent and to this day I am still the incredibly fashionable girl who can tell you off in my “Shameka”voice in a minute! In fact it’s one of the biggest compliments I get from my friends and they generously celebrate me for remaining true to myself!
Currently I live on an island where everyone wears sandals and summer beach dresses, I however continue to wear my stilettos and will continue to do so. My favorite coffee shop that I frequently visit, the baristas would often ask “what are you so dressed up for?” They’ve now learned not to ask that as they know that it doesn’t matter if I’m spending my Saturday simply writing, no matter what, I will look fabulous!
Being true to you and your personality is one of the greatest gifts you can give to yourself. Your originality is what makes you stand out and sets you apart from everyone else.
When you’re out dating, the last thing you want to do is blend in and look like everyone else. Hiding your personality or toning down who you are is only serving yourself injustice and preventing others to really get to know and embrace the real you.
Take the time to really get to know who you are and what sets you apart from everyone else. What do you enjoy doing? What makes you laugh? When do you feel most confident? What are you innately drawn to? What is it about you that draws others to you? What’s the one thing your friends constantly affirm you about?
These are some of the key points that help identify the real you. Once you become more aware of the real you, embrace yourself, enjoy yourself and most importantly deeply love yourself. When you’re able to do this, those around you will not want to resist you, but rather they will find themselves drawn to you. Confident people are magnetic and absolutely irresistible. Rather than watching the parade of the self-assured go by, why not join in by embracing you.
So let me ask, Who Are You?