Directions? Well I’m not the best when it comes to having a sense of direction. In fact, its a prerequisite of mine, that if you’re my boyfriend, you have to know where we’re going! Because 9 out of 10 times, I don’t have a clue! Once I was dating a guy who came to see me in my own city and he had a better idea as to how to get around, then I did. Wait…come to think of it, this has happened more than once!
Needless to say my GoogleMaps on my iPhone is my best friend and to come in between us, could result in you losing a finger! One area where its vital to know Where You Are Headed, is in your Dating and Love Life! To say I’ve always excelled in this department, would be a bold face lie! I can recall my Single L.A days, where I dated for the sake of Dating, yet there was no purpose nor goal in mind. Thankfully a gal pal threw a glass of cold water to my face and said”Wake UP!! You’re not getting what you want because you’re approaching this aimlessly!”
Since then, I’ve done my best to remain conscious of my Dating and Love Life choices. There are times that the men I’ve chosen have been for a variety of reasons. I loved how safe they made me feel, I loved their drive or they made me laugh and simply brought joy into my life. However, when it comes to settling down and committing to a relationship, Drive is very important to me. With that in mind, I’ve selected men who have been incredibly driven men, but as I’ve progressed over the years, I realized that Drive alone, is not going to cut it with me.
My heart has to feel loved, I must feel cherished and adored. While a guy who’s driven in life, may not always result in a guy driven to see my heart as valuable. All this to say, knowing that I’m not only looking forward to moving things along with a man who is driven, but who possesses the capability to love me deeply and well for that matter! It isn’t an either, or, situation, but a BOTH.
So if I continued to pursue relationships with men who are highly driven, but without the open heart to pursue me and love me well, then I’d be putting myself on a path with no arrows and no direction in sight. After being with driven men that while I admired their tenacity, their inability to love me the way I desired, challenged me to ask myself… “Is this really what I want?” Naturally, the answer was no.
As a result, I had to change directions. Not only change directions, but become highly aware of the type of men I attracted into my life and make sure that I didn’t settle for the old wants of yesterday. No my course had changed and therefore I had to keep the GoogleMaps of my heart, constantly tuned in, making sure that I was Headed in the right direction. The direction my heart so desired.
Dating and Love Life’s don’t have to be as complicated as we make them out to be, sometimes the simplicity of Knowing Where You’re Headed, can solve many unnecessary dilemmas!