Think about the last time you felt emotionally exposed? If it's been awhile, how long ago was it?
I can tell you my emotional exposure just happened yesterday.
My girlfriend and I have weekly scheduled calls where we discuss business, coaching, life and all things around love.
So when I got the text "Hey darlin, are we still on for today?", every thing inside of me wanted to say, "Hell no, I'm getting back in bed and pulling the covers over my head."
You see, I had just had 2 business set backs the day before, (yay for entrepreneurship .....*insert f/u face) along with some other personal challenges.
The last thing I wanted to do was talk about business whilst being inspiring.
Welcome Emotional Exposure..
I said "I can talk with you, but to be honest with you, I'm in the shitter right now, so if you don't mind hearing about that, then lets keep our call."
Let me segue here by saying that I didn't invent this whole emotional exposure thing. Dr. Brene Brown, author of "Daring Greatly" did, as she describes vulnerability as "uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure."
I knew going into this conversation that I wasn't certain that my friend wouldn't think "Holy sh*t Arica's an angry woman.", I also took the risk that by sharing about my shitter place that I was in, that she would support me in it as opposed to judge me and I emotionally exposed myself to her by telling her exactly how I felt about it all.
Thankfully my emotional exposure paid off as my girlfriend was incredibly supportive and I felt seen, heard, understood and cared for.
Yes my friends are legit.
But guess what, you don't just randomly pull relationships like this out of the sky. They're built one vulnerable conversation at a time.
If you wonder why you might be feeling alone, detached or reaching out for connection, only to find your hands and heart empty...
Check in with the last time you've emotionally exposed yourself to a trusted friend, lover, confidant.
Here's the screenshot, proof!