I learned from a very young age the beauty of escapism through Walt Disney’s magical hand at fairytales. While I genuinely love fairytales, I’ve also learned over time that there is more than meets the eye when it comes to love. In fact when I learned things like “Love is a choice”, “Forgiveness” is a choice, it conjured me to ask “Whatchu Talking About Willis?” Because Snow White just received a kiss to make all well, Cinderella got to wear a fabulous shoe and her life was changed, so heck yah I was down for kisses and new shoes!
However I somehow didn’t catch Belle’s heart while watching “Beauty and the Beast” as she was quite the forerunner in loving for the sake of love. She saw past the beast’s appearance, his harsh personality and chose to see him through the eyes of love by identifying his heart. Pure genius Belle, if only I had remembered your secret while growing up!
It’s not always easy loving someone who is acting very unlovable. It’s not easy forgiving someone who has caused you a great deal of hurt and frankly sometimes we just don’t feel like doing it. As a young girl, when I watched fairytales they caused me to “feel” and with that I brought that into my life and how I would choose to do life. Yet when I found myself in situations where I didn’t “feel” love and instead I wanted to yell, kick and scream. I am learning that when the feeling does not arise, my voice to choose love must find its voice. That is if I want to stay in the posture of love.
It’s such a great cost though. I have yet to find it something that always comes so easily and when I choose to give it, it requires a price that only I must pay. Why put forth the effort? I mean we have careers that promise to take us places, we have new cars to buy and the new label to purchase to show the world that yes we have made it? Screw them if they don’t want to show us love because we have power, the power to make it happen. So with that power who needs love?
I for one do. Because I am learning more and more the power of love, the more I am on a dire quest to allow it to infiltrate my entire life, even if it costs me. Though I may not always feel the love that I feel when I watch fairytales, I know that if I am woman who wants to have love in my life that I will have to choose love, even when the person that I am loving wants to bite back. I must forgive even when the other person is unworthy to be forgiven. I must choose.
Love and forgiveness is a choice, a choice that comes with a great cost, but I am unwilling to do without it. Reconciliation however is an entire different matter, come back tomorrow and I’ll share the difference between reconciliation and forgiveness. ”Find love, fall in love and stay in love with Arica Angelo!”