So what is it that women want? What about this movie speaks to women and has them isolated with their blankets and imagination at night, spiraling their wildest fantasies?
Most men I meet feel the need to bring up this book with me. They want to know my opinion, "So what does the dating/love coach think of 50 Shades of Grey?" But really what they're asking is "Does this stuff really work?"
Perhaps the biggest thing that men walk away from is the perception that the entirety of this book is about women desperately wanting to be spanked around, tied up and told exactly what to do.
To be bound by ropes, sitting at the front door, waiting for the man to mysteriously approach her in all of his glorious manhood.
So like little puppets, we find men running around seducing women into their beds, waiting to show them that they too can be the Christian Grey that drives her wild. And after all of the hair pulling is finished.. they walk away thinking "I've got it.. I finally have the magic keys to drive women wild."
Unfortunately, the woman on the other side of it all, has once again, faked another orgasm and walks away from his bedroom completely unsatisfied.
Listen men if it were really that easy, if things were that simple, we as women would have no problem speaking up and saying, "Hey Mr... tie me up, spank me, and while you're at it take a whip and smack me across my bum."
No no, you see that's not what it's about in this book, that has women so immersed with it.
It's for one, the pursuit. Mr. Grey see's the object of his affection and without hesitation pursues her.
He doesn't second guess himself and say "Well I wonder if she'd mind if I called her?"
"Will she find it overboard if I meet her out unexpectedly?"
"I hope she doesn't slap me in the face when I tell her that I want her more than anything."
No Mr. Grey isn't a man that second guesses himself. He sees his ideal woman and he goes after her.
No double crossing himself. No getting wrapped up and stuck in his own head.
Just solid action. Like a lion he moves forward in pursuit of his desire.
Men, when is the last time you've used this sort of tenacity to pursue a woman?
Have you ever even had it?
If you think that Mr. Grey's wealth and handcuffs is what has made women everywhere go crazy... then you've missed what it is that women really want.
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