What do I Do if I’m Single for Christmas?

Jingle bells Batman smells and naturally Robin laid an egg.  Every time I heard someone sing this childhood song it always had a cynical sting to me that was aimed towards the Holidays.  There are those who approach the holidays with great joy, curiosity and wonder of good things to come.  Then there are the others who see it through eyes of doom and gloom.

Credit card limits reach their peaks, annoying family members will have to be faced and food will be consumed at astronomical portions.  Bahumbug what’s exciting about that?  With that sort of an outlook of course the Holidays would seem far more amusing if Robin would lay a huge, big fat egg! Do it Robin, do it!

On top of all of that, what if you’re single?? 

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Jingle bells Batman smells and naturally Robin laid an egg.  Every time I heard someone sing this childhood song it always had a cynical sting to me that was aimed towards the Holidays.  There are those who approach the holidays with great joy, curiosity and wonder of good things to come.  Then there are the others who see it through eyes of doom and gloom.

Credit card limits reach their peaks, annoying family members will have to be faced and food will be consumed at astronomical portions.  Bahumbug what’s exciting about that?  With that sort of an outlook of course the Holidays would seem far more amusing if Robin would lay a huge, big fat egg! Do it Robin, do it!

On top of all of that, what if you’re single??  Oh my gosh, you have to watch the other happy couples exchanging gifts, getting engaged, seeing them stare at one another when all you want to do is run, throw up and then cry your eyes out.  ”Well that’s just great! I get to stress myself out financially, face that annoying aunt who just will never shut up, get fat and on top of all of that, I’M SINGLE!”

“And then there’s that Dating Coach Arica Angelo who tells me this is the perfect time to be meeting other singles!  Yah right Arica, am I supposed to do that before or after I eat that entire pecan pie?”  Okay I get it and I here you.  I validate your pain.  You’re right it can be tough.

Now that you feel validated and heard…… Quit whining and get off your ass!  ”Whaaat?? Seriously Arica didn’t you hear what I said?”  I did, but now it’s time to move past it all.  Remember feelings of defeat remind you of your pain, but your desire moves you on to what you want.  So what do you do if you’re single for Christmas?

If you haven’t seen my video Single & Lonely for the Holidays? I suggest you watch it, it encourages you to get out there and meet other singles during the Holidays.  But what if you lack the courage, what if you lack the will?  You return to your childhood.  What was the one thing you did as a child that made you sooo excited about Christmas?  You wrote out a wish list to Santa, you wrote down your desires and wishes.

Let me ask you this, when is the last time you asked yourself what excites about meeting someone?  What do they look like, what do they feel like and how do they make you feel?  Your desires get you to where you want to go.  I can guarantee you that dwelling on eating too much, credit cards and annoying family members will only pull you down a deep hole.  Sure you’re familiar with your misery, but familiarity and getting what you want are two entirely different things.

If you’re single this Christmas, return to your childhood and remind yourself of exactly what you want!! Desires are so much stronger then those negative thoughts that tell you everything is shit!  You can take that to the bank.