This makes most men just sick to their stomachs when they have that amazing woman in their life and all she wants is friendship.
Is there anyway to move it beyond that?
Well all stories come in all different shapes and sizes. And while I can’t promise you that your girl-friend may grant you more access into her intimate life, I can share with you my personal story.
I met his guy at an event and he seemed like a pretty typical sweet guy.
(Your nauseous already, I can tell…)
The reason why he was just a sweet guy to me, as opposed to “OMG he’s so hot, I hope he likes me!!!!”, was he simply wasn’t my type.
I like men who pay attention to what they’re wearing among other things and this guy, well he was wearing shorts, a tshirt and tennis shoes.
None to my liking.
He asked me out for a coffee and because I’m the nice person that I am, I said “sure.”
We went out and spent several hours together as I found him very interesting to talk to.
In fact, I found his sincerity quite enchanting.
For whatever reason, I decided to share my whole life story with him. He felt really safe to me and it’s was like no matter what I shared with him, I wasn’t going to be judged.
His compassion towards me in everything I shared, made me want to share even more. And so I did.
We talked and talked and at the end of our night he said he wanted to stay in touch.
Still despite all of our conversation, I only saw him as a friend.
Well this guy didn’t give up.
We indeed stood in touch and he continued on with what he started that evening.
Being sincere. Being compassionate. Being a safe man I could open up to.
Now I had no clue that this guy like me. That’s how oblivious I was.
He was so good at being a guy friend to me, that I started opening up to him about my dating life.
Can you imagine what this poor guy was going through as the girl of his dreams (that’s what he shared with me later..keep reading) was talking to him about all of the other guys she was dating??
He was devastated having to hear all of it, but somehow, he managed to keep his cool and remained a guy I could count on.
This went on for months. For months, he continued to be my friend, was supportive, caring and nurturing and for months I remained clueless about his feelings towards me.
That is until one day everything changed.
I was out for a workout with a girlfriend when out of the clear blue it dawned on me.
“O.M.G I think I like____________ (said friend).”
It was the first time I actually voiced it. As I said it, I almost couldn’t believe my ears.
Here this guy had been a dear friend to me, someone who’s company I enjoyed and looked forward to and now… I wanted more.
The more I paid attention to my feelings towards this guy, the quicker I realized I couldn’t continue just being friends with him.
I decided to have an honest conversation with him and shared with him that I wasn’t just interested in friendship with him any longer, but that I had developed a crush over the course of our friendship.
Needless to say he was ecstatic as he had had a crush on me all along.
We continued building on the foundation of our friendship and then we moved it to the “in a relationship” zone.
So can friendships turn into something more?
But it’ll take compassion, sincerety, and consistency as a solid man in her life.
If that’s too much to ask, then she may not be it for you.
Do yourself a favor and get very clear if she’s it for you, if she is, follow this gentleman’s path.
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