Sometimes, ok let's be real...
Most of the time, love stories come with twists, turns, bumps, highs, lows and even breaks.
Well my love has had all of the above.
A three year investment that we couldn't seem to make work any longer, which lead us to make the heartbreaking decision of walking away from our love.
If you've followed my journey, then you know I moved to France, then Bali and ended in Thailand.
For months I ran from the love in my heart.
I wanted to move on to new love, but my heart was not compliant with my running.
While in Chiang Mai, Thailand I couldn't run from myself any longer..
My heart showed up in full force.
I had a dear friend who was walking out the same journey of a breakup and he would constantly challenge me..
"Arica do you really not see you guys getting back together??"
For a while I was very defiant and said "ABSOLUTELY NOT."
But my heart and love, were not of the same mindset.
So my love came out to spend a couple of weeks with me in Thailand.
For a month, we would Facetime and chat..
He in Los Angeles, me in Thailand.
We had to have many heavy conversations that would last for hours and sometimes days.
It was not easy walking through the reasons why we walked away and what would be different if we got back together.
But above all of life's complexities...
Our love was stronger.
We've had many hard challenges along the way.
Me walking out PTSD over having a sister with brain damage due to a drunk driver hitting her, him with us walking out a blended family.
These challenges and more, stir up so many tender issues of the heart and the answers aren't always clear and direct.
Past hurts can grieve and weigh the heart down...
But as I have preached and continue to live...
Love is ALWAYS STRONGER.
Despite the hardships, challenges and hurts...
Love is a much greater force when we surrender.
For anyone who is walking out a breakup, a possible breakup or a difficult time in your marriage or relationship,
I offer you this.
Pride and love together will never work out.
But having a humble heart will serve you and your love.
Sure you may be hurt and pride sneaks its way in, promising you protection from the pain.
But the truth is, pride only prolongs the pain.
It makes you feel like you're finally in the driver's seat and pain is not your dictating force...
But it's not true.
Your pain remains.
The only way to heal it and to find truth for your own heart, is through the path of humility.
Relationships are not a byproduct, despite what social media and what influencers post on their accounts.
Making people and relationships as a "thank you, next" concept perpetuates the loneliness and isolation in our society.
Love is worth fighting for and working through.
Sure it's hard as f*k...
But so is anything worth having.
Love is the real deal, it's the most fulfilling thing we can experience on this planet...
But it will always require a willing and humble heart.