Have you seen the movie “The Vow” yet? It came out a couple of months ago so forgive me for just now writing about this phenomenal movie, but if you haven’t seen it I must say that is the one love movie you want to watch. Here’s a link to the trailer http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8swF2-R6X9A, needless to say this movie had me from start to finish and to say I cried my eyes out would be an understatement. Cried my eyes out and blew my nose off would be far more accurate.
I don’t want to go into the story line as I dare not ruin it for any of you who haven’t seen it, but there were so many truths about love throughout this movie that I found myself talking out loud many times during the movie with lots of approval or ouches as the statements made hit me so deeply. Very deeply.
You get the gist of what the movie may be about just by the title alone so I can assure you that when you see the guy played by Channing Tatum, share his commitment with the ever lovely Rachel McAdams, he means it and literally. His fight for her love, to have her heart restored back to his was breathtaking, heart wrenching and convicting. Throughout the movie I must’ve said to myself a hundred times “God please help me to be a better lover.”
I shared a lot about what I feel we have to unlearn http://www.aricaangelo.com/lot-unlearn/ along with some of the bad advice we can give and receive on a recent vlog http://www.aricaangelo.com/facebook-relationship-advice/ so while watching this movie all of that which I shared came back to me. I thought about all of the bad advice this guy could have given into had he listened to all of our modern “go to tips in relationships”.
I’m sure he would’ve heard “you’ve got to love yourself and move on”, “you’ve done all you can, she’s not coming back so quit wasting your time”, “if she really loved you, she’d remember”. This is just the tip of iceberg of relationship advice this guy would’ve been given whether he liked it or not. Against all odds he followed his heart. Now there’s something you won’t hear too many of your friends encourage you with. We’re quick to get each other out of pain and not willing to see someone endure the pain that can come with love.
This guy had such an enduring love and gave love when he wasn’t receiving. Ouch! That’s where this movie stepped all on my toes, heart and backside. Though his wife was no longer in a position to give him the love they once shared, he chose to love her, even past the point where there was no love being returned back to him. There was a solid trust within him that the love they once shared would come back, no matter what, no matter when.. it would return.
I could be wrong, but I think we’re often taught and tell one another that we love to get. It’s not said so directly, but there’s this undertone that if we’re not getting then we need to be leaving. Unfortunately it’s not so cut and dry and there are times to walk away. But then when the voice of love is ringing loud and clear, you fight, you don’t let go and you’re not detoured.
Thank you to the makers of this brilliant movie and for the real life lovers Kim and Krickitt Carpenter for reminding me and teaching me what real love is all about. I hope to one day love with the same strength, tenacity and fervency that you share for one another.