Yesterday I posted a question on my Facebook that asked "Have you ever felt like the "Right One" got away?"
I had a case of the "right one that got away" awhile back, or at least so I thought.
It was such a beautiful relationship. Full of fun, excitement and such amazing transparency. I hadn't smiled and laughed as much as I did in that relationship. This guy truly lit up my life.
That is until that subtle feeling that just kept coming up wouldn't stay silent.
Something just wasn't right. It started to drive me nuts.
Immediately I went to fear trying to figure it out, what was wrong, what was he secretly doing? You know the usual tactics of fear. I couldn't figure it out because I let fear get to the point where it was just out of control.
That is until the relationship was over and lots of time had passed. Before I realized the truth of the matter I kept wrestling with the question that proved to be ever daunting, "Did I let the right one get away?"
I'll never forget the day I called one of my awesome girlfriends and had a good cry with her. "But I feel like I still love him so much, it hurts. I miss him" I said. I was still haunted with if I had done the right thing by walking away.
Thankfully my girlfriend shed some perspective that brought my own advice that I give into full circle. She gently explained our differences. He was very committed to his career, not willing to budge and me being the person who needs to travel, experience and live life a bit differently would've been miserable in the end with such a difference of lifestyle.
There were other core things that were not alignment like our spirituality and belief systems that would've eventually caused things to erupt. It took me a long time to finally realize that I had indeed made the right decision.
But for so long I struggled with wondering had I made a mistake. Fortunately my friend was able to help shed some life that resonated with a major core belief in my life.
There is abundance and I nor the person I love have to spend our lives miserable. There is someone for everyone and we shouldn't have to relinquish our freedom in terms of the deep things we really desire.
So while our heartsfd may wonder and wrestle with "Did the right one get away", understand that with a bit of shed light, your perspective can change and you can come to terms with the abundance that love really does provide.