Relationships while being one of the most beautiful gifts given to us on this planet, is also one of the most challenging to keep going in full fruition. Communication is the Engine to every relationship. You pull out of communication with your significant other and the relationship stops. Despite how hard you push, kick and scream, if there’s not proper communication the relationship will not move forward.
For me personally, communication has always been my gift, but in all honesty, when it comes to my relationships I’ve been stumped and on numerous occasions. What is it that plugged my spark plugs?? Well that nasty old thing we call “pride”. Many times in my relationships when I knew what to say and how to articulate it to perfection, because I knew it would require vulnerability and humility on my part, I’d often shut down and throw communication out the window!
I remember even as a little girl being very ugly to my grandparents. Hours later after not speaking to them (mind you I was 5 years old), I eventually broke down and started crying (yes I’m a softy at heart). My grandmother came to console me and asked what was wrong. Do you think I opened up my 5 yr. old little heart with vulnerability by telling my grandmother my heart was broken over the fact that I had hurt her? No way. Pride had its way and I lied. I told her I was crying over a friend who had passed away and that was it.
Needless to say as a grown woman I still remember that spot where I was sitting in my yellow chair, outside of the living room. I lost my grandmother and grandfather 2 years after that and it’s the one thing I regretted. Not opening my heart to one of the most precious people in my life and allowing pride to have its pathetic way, was not worth it. But even as an adult, I still find that pride will step in the way and speak over the truth that resides in my heart.
There are many things that cut off our communication in relationships, for me it’s pride, for you it could be something entirely different. The point is, it’s crucial for you to remain in communication with your significant other. Nothing else matters. When your communication is connected with love, you become an unstoppable force that conquers all. Even if you’ve had a fight and just want to go to sleep..find it in your heart to reconnect and establish peace in your relationship. Hard to do…I KNOW! (Secret Help: For me when I’m angry, I may not always be able to reconnect the communication with words, so I often have to communicate through touch. So a simple holding of the hands or just touching the hand for that matter will help if you can’t talk.)
This Engine of Communication will need to be maintained daily. It’s not a once a week concept, it’s not a once every other day theory. It’s a MAJOR INVESTMENT of your time, will and emotions.
Listen up, relationships are the best investment you can make. Money comes and goes. Clothes, cars, the latest club, the fastest of cars…they all are temporary. They will not hold you when your sick, they’ll not comfort you when your world comes crashing down. Loneliness will always whisper you’ll be okay on your own (which disconnecting with communication will eventually lead you to), but the truth is, it’s a false master. We’re designed to need each other and that’s okay.
Keep the engine of communication running to its fullest capacity. Communication isn’t always the easiest tool to use.. that’s why there’s help out there. Sign up for Coaching with me http://www.aricaangelo.com/coaching/ , find a book on communication, communicate to your partner that you’re committed to improving communicating with them. Just make sure that you’re being proactive, for this is a tool that complacency will never serve. Communication… it is The Engine to Relationships.