The Balance with Fairy Tales

I have to admit that it really pisses me off when I hear people barking about how delusional women are for believing in fairy tales.   These breeds of pessimism annoy the hell out of me and I want to scream and kick the naysayer every time.  Listen lady or buddy, I’m really sorry you fell on hard times, that life kicked you in the teeth and you gave up your heart for the mediocrity of lost hope.  It’s a real shame, but hey don’t drag me down your downward slide of despair.  Yes life can suck sometimes, romances go bad and our hearts get broken.  But the road doesn’t stop there unless you say it does.

There are those who have had their hearts completely shattered but continue to raise their hand beyond the dust to reach out for one more glimpse of love.  In their reaching you feel the need to set fire to their remaining ashes.  Well shut the hell up, who asked you for your misery or your horrific opinions.  If you’re not being asked, then shut your mouth sit on the sideline with your trusted misery to console you.  Leave the dreamer alone, let the believer be.  Your followers of heretics are just around the corner, go and find them, the dreamer is not interested in your service.

Aaaaaahhh, now with that said and taken care of, I would like to talk you who still believes in the fairy tale.  You know the Prince Charming, the Princess that both rescue one another.  She sees his endless charm and beauty and she is the woman who finally sees him for who he really is.  ”Where have you been all my life?” they anxiously exclaim as they know that have been truly found and seen.  Their beauty is matching, the love they share for one another is strong and they are committed to one another for eternity.  He loves her, she loves him and nothing can come between them.

Doesn’t that just want to make your heart sigh?  That these two perfect beings have found one another and alas they can live life in perfect harmony till the end of time.

Here’s where other realities join the picture and take place.  Prince Charming leaves the toilet seat up, the Princess shaves her legs with the same razor he uses on his face and both refuse to make the bed every morning.  Then there’s the in laws.  One set are overbearing, constantly in the middle and don’t have a real grid for personal space.  The other set of parents are almost non existent, they’re caught up in the whirlwinds of their own lives and rarely get to speak to the happy couple, less alone actually connect with them.

Then there’s the finances.  While Prince Charming has lived a very lavish lifestyle, the Princess comes from a more conservative background and approaches money a bit differently.  Prince Charming gets upset as if the Princess is restricting him and his freedoms which have been entitled to him.  The Princess has grown up in a home where she can freely express her emotions whenever she chooses to do so, so she does.  Prince Charming finds this a bit upsetting, as his family did not speak of such matters as it was considered impolite.

So while you may see that at first life was rather charming, as they journeyed more into life together, complications arose, things were misunderstood and change was needed.  But hey, that’s the balance to any love story.  I had an amazing relationship where I felt like my guy was practically a mind reader.  We did everything together and had a blast.  We laughed often, kissed a lot, and held each other almost all the time.  But we struggled with communication, communicating our needs, our wants, therein lined the challenge.  That’s the balance with Fairy Tales, they come with many more perks than an average relationship, but they’ll still have those issues that will need to be worked out.