The other day I was having coffee with a dear friend and every time I talk to this person, they stir thought provoking conversation. As we talked about relationships, singleness and dating we agreed that the majority of it all is in knowing what you want. A process that can take years and for some a lifetime. Thus why people hire coaches like myself, to get through this process quicker so they can find fulfilled love.
There are just some singles who don’t have a clue! I’ll give you an example, out here in Los Angeles, single wealthy men are on the prowl to meet women. So to meet these women they’ll throw out how they’re successful in their business, rich, what kind of car they drive and who they know. Now whats their biggest complaint with the single women of LA? LA women are just
looking for wealthy men and men who know people who can further their careers.
Point validated. These men don’t have a clue as to what they want. While they find themselves frustrated with women who can potentially take advantage of them, the first thing they mention are the things that women who are users, are looking for to take advantage of. It’s like throwing out bait and then saying “You just want my bait!” Well if that’s what you’re throwing out there, why on earth would you be upset when someone bites?
While some of these men may deep down really want to meet someone, their strategy and the form that they use to meet women is completely off based. Why? Because they honestly don’t know what they want despite how deep they can look into your eyes and say “I’m looking for true love.” They don’t know what they’re looking for because their actions say the opposite. Our behavior can only model what is going on internally.
Finding the clues to what you really, truly, deeply want is what gets you on the path of finding fulfilled love. But for some it can take a lifetime.