The other day while shopping for protein bars, a random man walked passed me and said the infamous line, “How you doin?” I didn’t even turn my head to acknowledge him, but let out an “uhhhhhh” with a touch of disgust and kept walking. It was incredibly annoying and had it been worth my time, I wanted to say, “Are you kidding me? So you think that works?” Someone should inform this guy that this line didn’t work for Joey on Friends and it sure as hell wasn’t about to work for him.
How often do we hear cheesy pick up lines like this? It’s such a turn off and it’s incredibly corny. Ladies, we’re just as guilty of it as guys are. Even us ladies from time to time can say the most ridiculous
things to men. Why do we do this? It’s such a waste of communication.
People are more likely to engage you when you’re being genuine. Throwing out bad, cheap lines only encourage people to give you negative attention. If you’re saying cheesy pick up lines out of humor that’s another matter, but for those who are out there seriously experimenting with these lines, stop it!
For women, we’d much rather hear a genuine compliment. Don’t say, “Hey girl!”, honk your horn or say the stupid, “How you doin?” Instead be genuine. ”I love your skirt”, “I must say you look beautiful today”, “You have a wonderful smile” and so on. Women will respond much better to your positive affirmation as opposed to some corny pick up line you learned from your friends on Facebook.
Men may not want to hear how pretty they look, but acknowledging their smile, their attire, their voice, even their humor are much better ways to get your foot in the door. If it’s received well, that’s when you move forward with more direct communication of letting them know you have an interest.
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Always think of how you would want someone to approach you. Despite how anxious you are to throw out your bag of gimmicks, spare those around you. Genuineness is the best approach. Trust me, we all will thank you for it.