Just who do you think you are? I heard one speaker say “You don’t have enough time for me to tell who I am!” I’d like to agree with that speaker as I share the same sentiments. While we’re all getting a bit familiar with the power of our thoughts and as I continue to be an ambassador for the journey ofself love, I’d like to go a slightly different route on this one.
Projection in the world of dating is HUGE. Big. Enormous. Need anymore adjectives or do you get the picture? It’s a pretty big deal when you’re single and out mingling hoping to meet someone new. When I referred to the power of our thoughts and self love, I’m referring to the “self-help” side where we attempt to will ourselves into doing this. However despite how much of a rockstar you are at working your way into this, projection is an astronomical element that you must keep in mind in the world of singles and dating.
How you project yourself to those around you has a large influence on how you’re received, despite how much self love you work on. If you walk around with a grumpy face, chances are you’ll not be approached or if you are, not by the people you desire. If you look fearful with racing eyes running to and fro, even that in itself projects that you’re not okay. It says something is wrong and it proceeds you even before someone has the chance to approach you.
The simple things like not smiling, avoiding eye contact, socializing just with the people in your circle and avoiding any newcomers, all these things are projecting that one should either not approach you or approach you with extreme caution. If you’re wondering why you get avoided or rarely approached, consider what you’re projecting. I once had a girlfriend who walked around with a very scorned look on her face and it practically scared the guys off. I eventually talked to her about it and how scary she came across to the opposite sex. She was one of the ladies who would ask “Why don’t guys every come and talk to me?” Once she realized the “Go “f” off look” wasn’t serving her, she changed what she was projecting and naturally it helped!
So who do you think you are? Hopefully adjectives like “amazing, strong, wonderful, insightful, full of life, great personality” flow off the tip of your tongue. And if so great! Let’s take it a step further. Are you projecting that? I’ve even had people challenge me with my lack of smiling at times, while I was completely oblivious to what I was doing or not doing I should say. Deep in thought turned my smile into a serious, shrewd face. Thankfully I had bold strangers walk up to me and say “You know you’d look much prettier if you would smile.” Lol I’m glad I had people bring it to my attention as being a serious sourpuss woman is far from who I am.
Make sure your projection and who you really believe you are are in alignment. If you don’t feel so wonderful about yourself contact me and we can change that for you along with how you go about showing the world who you are. Remember smiling, making eye contact, engaging in conversation, these simple changes can transform your dating world and the participation that goes with it.
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