How many happy singles do you know? How often times do you read posts on Facebook from your single friends that describes how wonderful the opposite sex is? When is the last time you’ve heard one of your single friends exclaim ”I am just so hopeful about love!”? When was the last time you were excited about actually meeting someone new?
Face it, the general consensus amongst singles is one that carries very little hope. We spend our weekends sipping or some downing one too many cocktails, getting drowned in our cranberries and vodka, bottle service and dancing with two left feet across the dance floor. If we really thought we were going to meet our true love would we really have that next drink? Would we really continue spending our weekends at the same places, half heartedly contemplating that love could cross our paths. We get in the same routine with eyes completely closed as we’re completely oblivious to our hearts.
Ask most people what they want in a companion and their desires are conveyed in such an obscure manner you’d almost be compelled to offer them a flashlight for their journey of love as they seem to be wandering in the dark. Sure most feel the need, the ache, the wanting, but when forced to say and narrow down what it is that they truly want, they’re clueless. You can see just how clueless they are by observing their methods in pursuing love.
Hope, we’re in dire need of hope. I do marketing for a staffing agency (girls gotta pay the bills!) and I watch the apathy in some of our workers. The lostness I witness in most of their eyes breaks my heart. When I speak to our clients and they share feedback with me regarding some of the workers we send out I find myself shocked by the little work ethic most of them possess. Rather than being hopeful about life, they’re more focused on paying the next cell phone bill, hope in itself is a luxury to them that they think they’ll never be able to afford it.
The same lostness I don’t always witness in most singles eyes as most women’s eyes are adorned with more MAC shimmered eyeshadow than I can see through and most guys eyes glisten with so much sparkle as it’s a meat fest of women walking around half naked that even I cannot see past what’s truly going on. However as I watch their actions, get acquainted with how they spend their weekends, I can tell you they’re lost. If it happens great, if not “we’ll just keep doing what we’re doing” and maybe we’ll get different results is the mindset of most. That’s insanity.
Truth? Truth is their is hope. Love isn’t this million dollar check floating in the air that only a handful are able to grab. I can assure you that those who have obtained it, work at it, stay focused and committed to it and constantly create new ways to enjoy it. They have purpose. That’s what I love about marriage, most who do it right, do it with purpose and vision. Ah but that’s for another time. Vision is the caveat; you have to know what you want, where you’re going. When we have vision and purpose, narrowing down what we want becomes much simpler. Abandoning obscurity and committing to evaluating that which you truly want will bring you freedom, it opens the doors wide to hope!
Singles Hope & Vision, this changes it all. Fine tune your picture of what you want. Hell for some of you it’s taking the time to evaluate what it is that you want. Getting some sort of picture to work from. Once you know what it is that you’re looking for, that in which you truly want, it gives your heart the freedom to start expecting again and to start expecting more!