Trash talk.. “yo momma so fat when she wore a Malcom X shirt a helicopter tried to land on her!” ”Yo sister so anorexic she could hullo hoop with a cheerio!” We all know trash talk, in fact when I was in grade school we would actually sit around and just trash talk one another. It was so good for the morale and we all would leave the conversation feeling so invigorated! NOT. Okay so while we all know what trash talking is, I’m actually talking about something different. When I say “talk crazy to your partner” I don’t mean talk trash to them and start a crazy fight, no I’m referring to dreaming with your partner.
That’s right, dreaming and picturing a great future with the love of your life can be one of the most fruitful, life giving things you can do with you partner. We can spend our entire dinner conversation going over the guy who cut us off in traffic, your boss who thoroughly pissed you off that day and the unexpected bill that came in the mail that you find yourself very frustrated over. All of that precious time you have wasted with your partner while going over scenarios that won’t add an ounce of life to your relationship.
Relationships need that, they need life to be added back to them. Even if you’re one of the rare couples that actually do enjoy the moment and are grateful for the numerous blessings in your life, dreaming is still beneficial for you as well. There’s nothing like leaving the winter to see the first green leaf break through on the branches that have been barren for months. It opens us up for expectancy for the things to come. The same for your relationship… dreaming together and creating an expectancy is such a vital form of keeping life in the relationship.
Dream about the home you wish to purchase, what’s the vacation you’ve secretly been wanting to take? How about that romantic date that you’ve had conjured in your imagination that you have yet to share with your partner? Maybe there are heights you want to take your relationship, but you’ve been to caught up in the mundaneness of life that you have yet communicate to your partner where it is you really want to go with them. All of these things can be dreamed out together. But once again, thinking about them off in Neverland is completely different than actively conveying these things to your partner and creating a plan as to how you’ll execute it.
Quit having the same dull conversations with your partner and start talking crazy to them tonight!