One time while in Bible college I made the poor mistake of running my car to the point of exhaustion. The light that screams “Hey hot girl driving me, I’m way hotter than you right now and if you don’t pull over and let me cool down, I’m gonna blow up on you!” And blow it did as I blew out a head gasket from over heating my car. Duh, I mean didn’t my car get the fact that I had places to go, people to see and overheating, while blowing out a head gasket wasn’t on my to do list?
Well my poor maintenance and lack of care really cost me, or my dad I should say, naturally he was pissed. ”Arica, WHEN IT GOES TO THE FAR RIGHT SIDE AND IT’S RED… QUIT DRIIIIIIIIVING”, was the gist of our conversation from what I can remember. He was right, I didn’t properly care for the car and as a result it quit working for me. Have you ever considered the same principle for relationships? If you don’t properly care for them, they could quit working altogether.
Okay so perhaps the example I used most of my guys can relate to, so ladies let me propose the same to you in regards to caring for our faces? If you leave your make-up on every evening, how much do you think your pores can really handle? At some point those babies are going to clog and pimples will be your new companion. Wanted or unwanted, they will show up. Same with lines and wrinkles. Out in the sun too much with no protection and no moisturizer and you’ll be the woman running for a face lift quicker than Joan Rivers!
Face it it’s the same in our relationships. We must properly care for them or the same thing that we once loved and cherished will go down the drain. Spend time investing back into your relationship. Walk away from the television a bit more, instead of working those extra hours in the office, invest those hours back into your relationship. Make the time to date, make the time for those special intimate moments that keep the fire burning in your relationship. Ladies instead of that next pair of shoes, why not spend that money on lingerie? Men instead of purchasing that next golf club, take your lady out shopping for a new pair of shoes. (Yes shoes and shopping are foreplay indeed!)
Just like grass eventually dies from not being watered along with the scorching sun sucking the life out of it, so the same will be with your relationship. We have work, outside relationships, bills and so many other things demanding our attention, that like the sun, can really suck the life out of us. When we show up to spend time with our significant other we can feel wiped out with nothing to give, however watering can work miracles! Water your relationship by investing your time and emotions back into it. When is the last time you opened up to your partner by reminding them why they play such a significant role in your life? When is the last time you both offered each other sexy back massages? When is the last time you cutely put a piece of chocolate cake into their mouth? Your wedding you may say,… well sweets it’s been way too long. Get back to caring for what you value, your relationship will be there for you when friends, job security and 401k’s are not. If you do care for them, make sure that you let your partner know this without assuming they already do. Care for what you value.