Typically in the dating world when you’ve met someone who’s gone through a break up, they become that taboo person that we all want to stay far away from. Because we all know that if they’re fresh on the market, then they’re on the prowl for a rebound. Besides who wants to be the rebound person?
The freshly broken up are usually just that, broken. Either they’re hurting and sad or they’re pissed off and annoyed. The pissed off stage can be fun if managed properly, trust me I know. The sad stage just sucks and more than likely you won’t find them out too much. We all know though that if we try to pursue them, the joys of being that rebound person will be just the opposite.. no joy.
I’ve done this, in fact I’ve been the queen of rebounding. As soon as I’d go through a break up I’d be out playing the field. One guy would never do the job and the more the merrier. My friends would just shake their heads while I provided very valid reasons as to why my behavior was completely justified. I now know this wasn’t the best rememdy.
Grant it, being freshly single has its perks. You’re reminded often about how hot you are, the offer for dates start pouring in and the adrenaline rush of being out meeting lots of new good looking guys can feel incredible. But sometimes we’re not as ready for it all as we may think.
Listen we’re all different and how we deal with situations will vary based upon those differences, so getting out there and dating your face off may work for you. However I think that “rebounding” may not always be necessary. Who says we have to go on that date? Sure let the opposite sex make those introductions, have a chat with them, but proceeding with a date isn’t always necessary.
I’d much rather go through a break up while giving myself time to get back to enjoying me and when I’m ready, then the serial dating can begin. Now before you call me a saint, I’d gladly welcome the looks and the offers, I just may not say yes. Rebounding without having all of you fully alive, is really just setting us back. Enjoy being newly single, just remember that rebounding doesn’t always have to be the case. Rebound guys and ladies a good idea? Probably not.
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