Yesterday I shared with you about these gentlemen I was honored to be able to do a bootcamp with a couple of weekends ago.
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So I mentioned how wonderful these guys were, but there was one thing that really bothered me. It bothered me so bad that I couldn't shake it, the question just kept rolling over and over in my mind.
Several times they asked me
"Arica what if she gets turned off when I do/say that?" Now what they were referring to were some gestures I suggested to help them overcome their fear of approaching these women.
This question didn't come up once, not twice, but several times. And it continued for days as this was a weekend Bootcamp. The question broke my heart.
Why did it break my heart? Because the question said so much more to me then what the underlying tone projected. That underlying tone being rejection.
The question said to me "Shouldn't I hold back from going after what I want to make sure I'm not uncomfortable? To make sure others around me aren't uncomfortable as well."
My response.. "WHO THE HELL CARES HOW SHE RESPONDS?!?!" I went on to explain that life isn't always about accommodating to what others want nor is it walking on egg shells hoping they don't react negatively. SCREW THAT.
Let this be a life lesson for you. Write this down "Holding back who you are will NEVER serve you or anyone else for that matter." What I shared with these men was that if they really wanted to speak with a woman, or whatever the case may have been then they should ACT on it.
Point is when you turn down your desire based on others reactions to you, you're quieting you. You're editing yourself and downplaying a part of who you are.
Don't try to make others happy by not being the real you. It's a game you will never win and is never worth playing.
We live in a universe that requires action. The doers succeed while the speculators remain just that. Voices that speak but never uncover their reward.
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