Have you ever noticed those other people, by no means referring to you, all those other lunatics out there, who all deeply desire to have a relationship, only to find another person to make them happy? Now I know you may not have a clue as to what I’m talking about, but perhaps you may have a friend who fits this criteria. But God forbid you be that person! Hmmm.
Seriously, you know what I’m talking about, there’s a group of people out there who really live under this delusion that if only they find the right person, then they would finally be happy. Trust me, as mocking as I may come across, even my little tan bottom has belonged in this “Make Me Happy” category. You can also trust me in the fact, that it failed.
You see, the big emphasis here at AricaAngelo.com is not to prepare you on methods and tools, demises, so that you can go out and snag that right person. Heavens NO! The emphasis here at AricaAngelo.com is to walk you through your own journey of BEING the RIGHT PERSON. Now while I don’t fall for the full jargon that you can make yourself completely reliant upon yourself.. frankly its hogwash, we all need each other. Despite how much our “Independent” society wants to convince us of all we need is ourselves, the truth is we need others. We’ll need family, friends and even that special person at some point in our lives. So while you can do all the right things to make yourself a very happy person, at the end of the day, if you have that special person, it makes it ALL THE BETTER!
Ask lonely people, who have no one, just how happy they are? Really, you don’t have to ask them, just look at their sour puss faces and you’ll figure it out pretty quickly. Their loneliness reflects in their countenance and their attitude. However, when you do find that special person, this does not mean that your happiness is their sole responsibility. Nope, no way, you still have a part to play.
There’s a fine line here. While we all need others in our lives, needing them and depending upon them to fix us, isn’t going to cut it. When you become the right person, that special someone is from there, able to enhance your life and make it all the better.
You see in a “Make Me Happy” relationship, it’s “I take from you, and YOU better pay up!” But the truth is, when you enter a meaningful relationship, you actually get excited when you get to give to the other person! And because you love yourself, when they pour out their love on you, you’re in an excellent position to receive! Relationships are NOT about depending upon the other person to wave a magic wand over your head and fix your brokenness. No that’s your responsibility, however that person can love you along the way.
A real beautiful relationship says “I enjoy the full circle we share, where we continually add and give to one another, it fully being received and reciprocated.” May we all find that relationship! But a “Make Me Happy” kind of relationship, I assure you will not leave both partners fulfilled. Be the right person, learn to receive love for yourself and be so full of love that it can’t help but to ooze out onto the love of your life!