Whenever you think of love do you think it looks like a beautiful romantic movie?
You know they meet on que, the sun is shining bright, the orchestra is playing the perfect melody and our two characters fall in love as it's meant to be.
The world as we know it is finally working out the way it should, as we knew it was meant to.
Your heart feels that surge of emotions, you too become engulfed with love as you witness these lovebirds being swept away the music of love.
You let out a deep breath and your body rests assured that life is really meant to work out. Love is there to carry you away and set you free.
Now fast forward five months from that moment our beautiful lovebirds met. How is life? Are they still in love? Is the glorious orchestra still playing in the background?
Chances are things have changed slightly, their love has become messy.
Uh oh? Trouble in paradise? Say it isn't so? Perhaps they weren't meant to be? Perhaps they should move on and find someone with less issues? (That's right, with pro-longed time, the issues come out. And yes you have them too.)
No, not all, it's what I like to call love's mess.
Many times when people come to dating/relationship coaches like myself they're looking for a road map to assure them that they avoid the mess at all costs.
While us coaches can steer our clients from many unnecessary disasters, the truth is at some point love will become a mess. Surprisingly it's not a bad thing.
Love doesn't run from a mess, but it actually embraces it. Because the truth of the matter is love is actually a very powerful force.
And you thought fear was powerful? Ha! Not in the face of unconditional love. When unconditional love arrives on the scene, fear doesn't stand a chance.
When you find yourself in one of love's messes, don't run from it, embrace the ride and be ready for a new experience of the power of love.