Whenever going through a break up, the first thing that always crossed my mind was “Wow, that was a waste of time.” I must admit that even going through a divorce provoked the same message. In fact, its taken me years not to resent what I once felt as “wasted time”. To be honest, it’s still a process I’m working out.
This may sound incredibly cruel, however it’s very honest. I had invested 7 years of my life and as I saw it, I would never get that time back. So I dated non-stop and approached life at 101 mph. I went on as many dates as I could, every club opening I made sure that I was there and any project I wanted to do, I made sure I went after it. Exhaustion and I became well acquainted needless to say.
Over time and still with time, I am growing up. Not just as an adult, not just with matters of maturity, but my heart, my love is growing. How I view life and relationships is constantly developing. Love looks different and while I admit I have not arrived, I keep journeying on-wards with its growth inside of me.
Whenever we choose to love someone, when we choose to give them a part of our hearts, I have learned that it is never a waste. After going through a heart break, it feels quite the opposite. You can feel cheated, abandoned, lied to. But when things settle, the storm in your heart quiets down, can you then come to a place of reflection.
You see, when we deposit love into another human being, we are never being wasteful. Despite that your heart aches when the relationship fails, the truth is love is abundant. When you pour love into one, your love is never drained. That is unless you stop allowing love to come in. But despite how “over-giving” this may sound, there is one pertinent thing that we forget. The value of a human being.
I watched a television report the other day about Hollywood marriages, (I’ll share later about this later) and the message of the show ended with one word… money. It was about business, pre-nups, who got what and how much they could’ve gotten. It disgusted me.
How low of a society can we be when dollars become more valuable then people? A substance, a by-product valued above relationship, valued above another human being? Its degrading, but unfortunately not a new topic.
As I look back at every relationship I had, I now realize that it was a precious person I CHOSE to be in relationship with. I was not a victim. I chose to enter that relationship, I chose to give them a part of my heart, I chose to love them as a person. In all of my relationships, each person carried a preciousness about them that I still hold value for.
Not one of them was a waste. May I remind you that when you choose to love another person, that it is never a waste and It’s Worth It! I do believe that there are some people who will suck you dry and there are times where you must walk away. But at the end of the day, we are human beings designed to be loved and when you give that gift, you have participated with heaven, you have become dare I say.. god-like?
If you’ve loved another and you feel cheated or your time wasted, remind your heart that you gave the greatest gift of all. Love. And it was worth it.