As a dating coach, we (other dating coaches and I) use lots of jargons to help navigate singles through dating and help dispel lots of the myths.
We teach you "How to Get out of the Friend Zone" and many other "How To's" so to speak to set you on the path to finding the love you're meant for.
But the reality is this, I'm really helping you face your fear and move past it.
The gorgeous woman that you're secretly in love with, is not the one crippling your life.
While you may fixate on approaching or not approaching her, or whether or not she'll accept or reject you, ultimately fear is the task master in all of this.
Fear keeps you in your head.
Fear immobilizes you.
Fear tells you it will protect you and so instead of actually chasing her, you fantasize about her and it all ends there.
When you're out to find love, fear can't hold you by the balls so to speak.
At some point you have to get your balls back from fear.
As gruesome and crass as that may sound, the fact of the matter is what's really occurring.
To get a hold of your life and your pursuit of love you're going to have to decide that you're boss. Fear can no longer be the fierce dictator in your life.
And to leave this toxic relationship with fear, you'll have to get adamant about making that change.
So while you thought that maybe the girl was just too hot, or that you're just not ready, the truth of the matter is it's fear masquerading itself in your life and calling the shots.
Who's going to win in your life, you or fear? It's your call.