I’m not sure where you’ve come from, or what kind of lingo you and your friends speak, but being a Texas girl and listening to rap music known as the “Dirty South”, one expression you often hear in rap songs is “I’m a Do Me!” Sounds funny, but there’s a lot behind this tiny expression. It basically means, I’m going to do what’s best for me, or whats right by me. I’m going to take care of me. It’s hilarious when I hear someone getting in an argument or defensive and they shoot off with “I’m a Do Me!” Makes me laugh everytime. Of course I don’t laugh openly, because I don’t want to get popped in the mouth!
As much as I get tickled by this statement, the truth behind it and what it can represent is tremendous and very powerful. You see contrary to sh$@ we’re being sold by popular belief of we can do life alone and we’re all we need, bottom line is, the majority of us want to be with someone. What does “I’m a Do Me!” have to do with that? Well the opposite of what you’re probably thinking. When this statement is released, most would resort to the line of thinking that all I need is me, but I’d like to propose a twist. (I’m sure you’re shocked!)
“I’m a Do Me!” is not what we do to isolate ourselves and keep us in the state of being single and the “I’m Independent, I can do this on my own!” role, it’s actually the propeller that gets us to the place where we find true intimacy and hopes fulfilled. How so? Well, I’ll tell ya!
You see, to make the decision that you want to be in a relationship, is the first step. And its a critical one at that. However, as you may very well know, making that decision and the reality of it, can often take some time to see it in its fruition. That’s where this “I’m a Do Me!” comes in. You see, in the journey of waiting or even exploring dating, the best thing you can do for yourself in this part of your journey is “Do You!”
Getting in touch with you, spending time with yourself, asking yourself those difficult questions, allowing those buttons to be pushed that trigger emotions within that yell “Wake Up”, are all hidden blessings in disguise. Despite how much you think obtaining that wonderful relationship will alleviate all of those deep inner questions and searches, the truth is, that relationship will only escalate them.
Questions dwelling in the depths of you, may not be as painful to answer as you may think. Take the time to “Do You!” and allow those questions to have a voice and stay with them until you allow the answers to come forth. They’re beautiful questions that when answered will give you the wings to fly wholeheartedly into that relationship you dream of.
So while some may some may say “I’m a Do Me!” to validate their isolation, often birthed by hurt, you can take that same expression and turn it around to be the fuel to your destination, to the desire of your heart. You can bet, “I’m a Do Me!”