“I Need You!’ do these words alone unnerve you? In the age of Independence, who really needs anyone when they have themselves, right? Yah right. The truth is, we need each other.
I’m sure we can all remember 9/11 and the horrific stories that came out as a result of that tragic day. One thing that our Nation saw, was the power of Love and being there for one another. WE came together. There was no “I”, but in that moment, Unity became our best friend. You see, that’s the beauty of Love, its not a “Me” type of thing. It begins with “ME” but then the opportunity is bestowed upon us all, to where it can be turned into a “WE”.
While I’m all over developing a love for oneself, the truth of the matter is, at some point we must jump off the ledge and be courageous enough to share that love with someone else. The love that we have for ourself, should overflow onto another special someone. It’s out of our abundance that we get to share this beautiful gift.
It concerns me in this day and age of Independence, that when we talk about self love, we become mistaken, thinking that it stops there. No, this is only the beginning. When we arrive to the place, that we’re ready to open ourselves to another, its not anything small like purchasing your next Coach Handbag, or your next vehicle.
The person that we choose, is NOT an accessory, but a vital addition to enhance and journey through life with. You’re not the Lone Ranger who’s so full of love for yourself, that you no longer need anyone. There’s no truth in that whatsoever. I don’t care how strong you are, or how successful you are on your own. Finding your partner to share life and love with, is nothing close to an accessory!
I believe that we can buy into the lie that we can become so adequate within ourselves, that we’ll never need another person. What that says to others is “I don’t need you. If I so choose to allow you to become apart of my life, just know that the role you’ll serve, will be an accessory to my life. Should you leave at any moment, I will not be effected one way or another.”
And in our state of “Independence”, we call it Strength, but the truth of the matter is, its cowardice in its purest form. Courage is being vulnerable enough to say, “I choose you to be apart of my life. I will open my heart to you in places that may scare me. You will make a mark on my life and should you choose to leave, I can assure you it will hurt like hell. But nonetheless, I will step onto the water and hope that you will protect my heart as I am with you.”
I’m not sure about you, but I need Love. When I went through a major break up, I needed the Love of my friends around me. Having my baby sister almost taken from us from the drunk driving incident this past October, reminds me daily, that I need the love of my family and friends. But I don’t want to remain this vulnerable only when tragedy strikes. It’s a Heart Posture I want to live my life out of.
I want to keep my heart so open, that my Lover knows that with them my heart is fulfilled and without them, there is an eternal ache. That they know, they are Valued, Adored, Treasured…and that I need them. Saying “I Need You”, isn’t “Needy” as we think in modern terms, nor is it “Weak” and short of the “Independent Woman” we all want to portray. It’s a woman who says, out of my strength, I offer you my courage to let you in and to carry a significant place in my heart.