I’m sure if you enjoy rap music you’ve heard Jay Z’s “I’ve got 99 problems, but at B&*$ ain’t one”? If you don’t like rap or lyrics that refer to women as “Bitches” then you definitely don’t want to listen to this one. I’ll give you the gist of it, Jay Z talks about how he has all of these problems, 99 to be exact, but a woman is not one of them. Obviously written in his former single days as he’s now married to Beyonce and has a precious daughter with her. But it’s the song that basically portrays that relationships are a pain in the A$$ and that while he may have lots of other situations, this is one that will not get in his way!
How often do you hear singles going on about how wonderful the single life is? I find that it varies in locations, but go to LA, New York, Miami where you have people who live very busy lives and they’ll tell you that they don’t have time for relationships, they love living the fast life and they don’t see themselves slowing down to squeeze a relationship in there.
While matrimony and relationships may not be for everyone I find it hard to believe that the life of Singleness is what everyone is wanting as well. Excuses like not having enough time, life is just so wonderful that it’s not necessary to bring someone else into your life of awesomeness, I find to be a silly notion. So you’re telling me you dig staying in and watching movies alone and it’s so wonderful? Whenever you get sick and want to be nurtured you also like to be alone in those moments? When you have that horrific day at work, instead of telling someone who deeply cares and loves you, you’d rather share it with your dog? I won’t even go into the sex department…. oh never mind yes I will!
You here single ladies talk about how all they need is their vibrators and that suffices it all. Really your vibrator holds you and tells you how beautiful you are after your intimate moment? Men, your numerous sexual partners who may give you the big “O”, but yet actually don’t care about you really leave you feeling respected and admired? I think not. Counterfeits to intimacy will never bring anyone fulfillment, face it.
Yes we go through seasons where Singleness is needed, we need to find out who we are, the value of loving ourselves and just being with ourselves. But let’s not sell the bullshit story that Singleness is so awesome and everyone else who chooses monogamy is just a big, fat loser. While relationships may take work, they also bring more life then living a lifestyle that has one chasing “false” pursuits. There’s nothing like having someone getting excited with you about your accomplishments, who loses their breath when the look at you and having the nearness of their presence that helps shift everything into perspective.
So while you may have 99 problems… a B$^& or having an intimate relationship may enhance your life in ways you never imagined, while you were convinced it would be a problem, it may be your biggest blessing. Think about it.