It’s Easter Sunday, so most of you dressed up in your Sundays best and went to church with your families and loved ones to celebrate. Naturally I rocked the pearls and was in charge of dressing my sister so she of coursed had to be drenched in pearls as well. It’s only right by her that I do so.
For some the Easter Celebration is the one of 2 times that they go to church, followed up with the Christmas service. For others it’s a huge celebration to be excited over the reason behind Easter. The fact that Jesus didn’t just mournfully die on a cross, but that He was resurrected on the 3rd day, this day, which is why we celebrate Easter. Hopefully for those who rarely go, you found a loving church to go rather than the condemning church where the preacher beats the verbal shit out of you to boost his on ego. Those you can walk out of, the point is, we’re to feel loved when we walk into church and accepted. So hopefully you felt the latter.
The easter egg hunt symbolizes the tomb that Jesus’ body was in and so when the children search for the eggs, it’s like the women who went to search for Jesus’ body, but they couldn’t find it. Why? Because He is risen! With all the talk of Easter we hear the word Resurrection a lot. I’ll use Webster’s Learning Definition of Resurrection to go where I’m going with all of this http://www.learnersdictionary.com/search/resurrection
It says that Resurrection means “the act of causing something that had ended or been forgotten or lost to exist again, to be used again, etc.” So while I’ve given you the whole spill on what Easter is about and hopefully I’ve gotten an “Amen” or a “Hallelujah” out of one or two of ya, I’d like to talk about resurrection in terms of love, dating and relationships.
Are you single or have gone through a break up and you feel like love is just dead in your heart? No I’m not referring to self love or the love from you feel from your friends and family, but I’m talking about an intimate kind of love. Do you feel dead and hopeless in this department? If so I completely understand that it can feel like the pits and despite how many pep talks or positive notes you see on Facebook, your heart still feels closed and shut off.
What about you who’s in the relationship, but fight after fight, frustration upon frustrations has got you feeling worn out? Your heart feels so closed down to your partner and emotions have now become a commodity in your life. The thought of even provoking any of those emotions towards your significant other feels like an internal war that you have no strength to fight in.
Or you’re the married person, years of being married and you now find yourself going through the motions. The intimacy burned out years ago and the truth of the matter is you now are both just glorified roommates who probably aren’t even sleeping together anymore. The tenderness in your heart that you once found for your spouse has now faded over with a numbness. Sometimes just to look at them irritates you and even causes the life around you to seem frustrating.
For all of your situations, may I recommend “resurrection”? Remember Webster said that these dead things were to be used again? I would suggest that thing I’m referring here to be used again is love. For those of you who are single, I’m going to ask you to do something that may propose to be rather threatening, but I will ask it of you anyway. Remember the times when love in your life was good and go back to those memories. Sit in them, breathe them in and remind yourself that this good feeling is what you’re hoping to experience again and that it will last.
Same for you who have gone through the break up’s though this may be really painful for you, so I will suggest lots of grace and lets just say for you that when that tender moment of love arises, to not shut it off, but to listen to its voice. Allow it to gently remind you in the midst of your hurt, that true love exists and when you’re ready again, it will find you.
For my readers who are in relationships or marriages and the love has dried up and turned into dust, here’s where resurrection can work in your favor. Remember. Why did you fall in love with them? Despite how annoyed you are with them right now, what is it that they do that still makes you smile, of course when they’re not looking. When’s the last time you’ve just touched them? Not sexually, but to hold them for the sake of holding. Can you remember when you held their hand last? Resurrection can begin it’s beautiful process all through a simple touch, you allowing your guards to come down and opening yourself to the other, to allow yourself to love and to be loved.
Thank you Easter for the real meaning of what you represent and for also reminding us when we need Resurrection in our own lives.