“You got to know when to hold em’, Know when to fold em’, Know when to walk away and Know when to run”. If you’re not sure where this is from, it’s the lyrics to “The Gambler”, by Kenny Rogers. Now I’m not much of a gambler, as I typically go to Vegas just for the scenery and watch others lose their thousands, as I sip on free drinks and yell when they’re winning! Other than that, there’s no way you’re going to catch me throwing my money around on the tables, but I’ll sure watch you!
However, when it comes to the game of Life and Love for that matter, I have gambled many times, throwing it on the table, hoping that the gamble in the end, would pay off. When I tried explaining the artists life in Los Angeles to others, I put it like this. ”Imagine you going out to Vegas, taking your hard earnings and putting them on the table, hoping for a big pay day! Well that’s what it’s like for an actor, model, musician, in LA, except we’re not playing with dollars, we’re gambling with our lives!”
So whenever I find people who are wanting to pursue the entertainment industry, I’m always incredibly upfront with them and make sure they know the cost, as myself and many others have paid and some are still paying it! When it comes to Love, many of us have rolled the dice, played our cards, hoping that we’d win big and win with Love! It’s a huge gamble, it’s a gamble of the heart, a matter to not be taken lightly.
But like the lyrics of the song I mentioned, you’ve got to know when to stay, hope the gamble pays off and when it’s time to lay the cards down and walk away. Here’s the thing, there will never be a perfect relationship and EVERY, yes I said EVERY relationship, will require work. However, in relationships, there are times to stick it out and really make the investment to see the relationship work, while other times will require you to walk away and not look back.
Once when a gentleman was inquiring about me, he asked one of my confidants about me and her thoughts. Her response “She’s loyal.. almost TOO loyal.” She was right, there had been times, meaning more than once, where I stood in relationships that should’ve pointed me to the “EXIT” sign, yet I chose to stay in the relationship for far too long. I’m very determined to see things work out and when I see potential, I can get so focused on that potential, that I have lost sight of what’s in front of me. Potential is great, but you can’t take it to the bank, it’s up to the individual to step into it for themselves.
So while staying in relationships can be quite noble, you do have to know when to call the shots and walk away. But when? How do you know? For me, the indicator is when you find yourself doing the work, doing your best to convince the other person to work, yet watching their tracks remain in the same place. Relationships require two people steadfastly working towards a fruitful and promising love. So when you find you’re the only one working, its time to reevaluate your game plan and come up with the solution that works for you and your heart.
However, when you find that you and your significant other have hit a bump and you’re not sure what to do, watch their actions. A man/woman who has hiccups, does not necessarily mean they’re down for the count. If you see your partner is adamantly willing to work through his/her issues, I’m not sure how you can walk away from a person like that? Grant it, I’ve had partners, who have claimed that they were “working on their stuff”, however their lives and actions indicated otherwise. But when you have a partner who is actively putting their best foot forward, you’ll find that they’re moving towards your heart and when two hearts are combined into one, it’s a powerful force that cannot be conquered.
So are Relationships and Love like Gambling! You damn straight! So make sure you know when to hold em’ and when to fold em’! If they’re making the right moves, you better hold onto em’… if they’re sitting in their poop, wallowing in their tears, fold em’ up and be on your way!