If you’ve ever talked to someone who has just gone through a break up, you may get the sense that you’ve just walked into a horror film and that the world could possibly fall apart at any given moment. Their disposition on life is often grim and hope is something that they cannot even fathom. And rightly so, because a break up is never a fun thing and feels terribly awful, so can you really blame them?
When you’ve gone through a break up you can feel very unlucky in the love department, you may look around and think that everyone else has it together and you’re this one huge mess that will never get it together. Thankfully this is not the truth and the reality is a break up is an incredibly difficult thing to go through, but the point of the matter is is that you do get through it.
While I’ve been fortunate to meet some really fabulous men in my life, I’ve also had my fair share of heartbreak. And for the record let me just say that if you’re the one that initiates the break up, it does not mean that it makes things any easier. Heavens no! I broke up with one guy and it took me a year to get over him, a year for crying out loud! But guess what? I got over him and moved on.
When the initial break up happens and the earth feels as if it may swallow you whole, it can be rather challenging to regain proper perspective. The reality is that while you will find yourself moving on at some point and even falling in love again, your break up when it initially happens doesn’t always reveal the nature of its purpose. Break ups just don’t happen, I’m convinced that most of them come with a reason and that reason will always serve you. That is if you choose to allow it.
With some of my break ups, while I found the guys to be admirable men, the truth of the matter is I would’ve been miserable with them. Either there was a personality clash, our goals were as opposite from north to south or they would’ve held me back from the things I want to accomplish, thus restraining me and draining my love. I try to always share how fortunate I’ve been with meeting such wonderful companions to help you change and attract the same into your life. With that said, even though those break ups felt like the end of the world, the next relationship would change my perspective and my love would soar to new heights.
So while your love life may feel like one never ending Friday the 13th, the truth is that your break up has really served you. If you think you don’t have greater days ahead in the love department, then you’re wrong. Open up, shift your perspective and realize that you could be very wrong about your situation. What you thought was the end of the world is actually your brand new beginning!!