The love of his life, cheated on him, had an affair and what was once holy matrimony, was then a pile of papers headed to the courtroom down divorce lane.
Same story, another amazing guy finds himself deeply wanting love, desiring the woman of his dreams, but just can’t seem to make the connection because his daunting past keeps whispering to him… “She can break you. Just like the last one.”
Has your past ever haunted you?
To help you understand, I thought I’d share my own haunting past.
For one, I too have been through a divorce and while that has definitely played a role in my pursuit of love, I had another incident that really punched the life out of my gut.
If you’ve been following me throughout the years, then you’ve read me write about my baby sister on numerous occasions.
She was hit by a drunk driver in late 2010 and it changed mine and my families life forever. Ever since that day a part of my heart has never been the same.
I tried to get into a relationship shortly after and failed miserably.
Well in my opinion I felt like failed, because I could never let my heart fully out of it’s walls.
Though my sister lived, her last four years have been living out of a nursing home and every day we wait for the moment she’ll start speaking again.
So it’s no wonder that I reached out to my own personal coach and told him I was finally ready to deal with my sisters situation…… 4 YEARS LATER.
I kid you not.
I knew it was going to be painful, I knew I would have to let go of the walls and I knew I couldn’t do it alone.
That session with my coach was indeed painful and yet oh so powerful.
As we walked through and began to lay down the walls in my heart, I knew at the end of our session there would be that moment where my “homework assignment” would be given to me, the kind I typically assign to my own clients.
With snot falling from my nose and eyes so full of tears that I couldn’t see, I bravely whispered yes to my coach that I would indeed do the homework assignment he gave me.
Did I? Yes of course, I’m not only an incredible coach, but an amazing client.
I did it. …………….. 1 month later.
And you know what, it was the best thing I ever did.
I had been carrying around an invisible backpack full of cement every day of my life since my sisters accident and that day I was able to remove it off of me.
By no means did I want to do that homework assignment, nonetheless even bring it up to my coach, but the freedom I was able to receive by having the courage to face my haunting past was the liberty my heart needed. And well overdue.
What about you, is there an invisible backpack full of cement that you’ve been carrying around? Perhaps for years? Maybe even all of your life?
Those extra weights we carry not only cloud our judgment and ability to connect with love, but they slowly eat at us and keep us separated from the things we really want.
Like love. Life finding the perfect woman.
Learn from me and don’t try to do it all on your own. That’s why I’ve created my membership group, a community of men who are committed to getting the lives and love they deserve.
Rather then trying to figure out all yourself, remaining isolated and face it, stuck, surround yourself with other men and a dating coach that will support you in your pursuit of finding the right woman.
Do yourself a favor and join men just like you today.