Modern dating can feel like a strategic game of chess. The only difference is chess allows for a winner and a loser. Dating on the other hand, seems to be only allowing for singles to be in a position of losing.
Which leads me to my question "Does modern dating suck?" Yes, it does.
But why? Why does modern dating suck.
Some say it's the dating apps, we have too many of them.
Some say it's the divorce rate, so singles have given up on love.
Some women say it's because men are no longer men, they're Peter Pan's now.
Some men say, women are just jokes and only play games. (Wait wouldn't that make women Pamela Pan's?... buh da bump!)
While there may be some validity to all of these statements and arguments, unfortunately they don't help with the fact that modern day dating does indeed suck.
Or does it?
Here's my take. Roles have changed and men and women alike aren't really sure what their roles should be.
Should a guy pay? Should a woman approach? Who knows.
It's changing and it will continue to change. So navigating through it all with expectations that everyone else will know their role will only lead to your dating demise.
Here's a challenge. Instead of approaching dating with the expectations and entitlements that the opposite sex will make you happy, why not do yourself a favor and make yourself happy.
Why not take the time in really giving thought to how you want dating to work for you and then go out and make that happen.
Sitting around waiting for society to get their shit together, or hoping that dating apps will soon disappear isn't going to happen anytime soon.
So while you can't control the opposite sex and while you can't control all of the tumultuous changes of dating, you can control the dating life you want to create.
Here's my advice, quit bitching and get to creating.