It's Saturday night and there he is all alone. Him and another round of the latest Xbox game that he's determined to beat.
In his mind he tells himself, "This is me checking out. I'm giving myself a break."
We all want to check out from time to time. Life gets stressful. Human beings can be annoying and well this is that private place where you can just be with you.
Alone with your thoughts. No one disturbing you. No one demanding anything of you.
I get that, totally.
I went through a time in my life where documentaries were my escape. Human interaction was very low on my priority checklist. Spacing and zoning out into another world felt like the perfect escape.
Little getaways like this I really enjoy, but there's a quiet ensnare with these private mental vacations.
It pulls you into isolation.
The more I avoided human contact and found my contentment with the TV screen, I started to feel off.
Loneliness started to creep it's way in. I started feeling misunderstood by people. No one was there for me and this led to frustration.
After I've always given my life to be there for people, why weren't these jerks there for me?
I had just checked out, and with my hidden "DO NOT DISTURB" sign posted over my existence, the world around me obliged.
Single men, when you check out like this, it may feel right for a time, but at some point you have to pull yourself away from the game and interact.
While I enjoy checking out from time to time, I have to be aware and mindful that isolation will be peeking his sneaky head around the corner.
We need each other. Isolation only insinuates an atmosphere for pain, and hidden frustrations to fester.
Take a break, but snap out of it and tell someone why you're escaping. Are you frustrated? Are you overwhelmed?
Then talk about it.
Practice this now, because your lady in waiting will see you as a dream man if you're able to talk without ignoring and hiding your pain.