Hello my dear,
Trust your day is treating you well. I'm sure the title of this post has already intrigued you to the point that you feel it in your gut.
What's wrong with women? Why do they need commitment anyways? Isn't it enough that you want to be with them, that you take the time out to spend with her? Isn't that enough?
No, she still wants to know where you two stand. How committed you are to her. Doesn't it just drive you nuts?
Why does this trigger you? Why can't she just accept the fact that you want to spend time with her, why is hanging out just not enough? And she won't let it go will she? Sometimes she doesn't even have to say anything, but you can feel it. You feel inside that it's just not enough, she wants more. Most importantly she wants to know where the two of you stand.
Let me ask you, why do you think she wants commitment? I live in Los Angeles where commitment is a huge faux paus. Most singles and divorcees have a challenge with this word. Heavens just committing to Friday night plans can be quite the ordeal. So the thought of committing to someone relationship wise is well frankly "just going a bit too far." Perhaps our city has the Peter Pan syndrome, but mostly we all know it comes from "The Next Best Thing" syndrome.
Now that I've explained Los Angeles, let's get back to you. What does she really want with the term commitment from you? Well let me tell you what she's not looking for. It's not about ruining your life. It's not about attaching a chain to your legs and watching you suffer for the rest of your life. It's not about hoping that you will spend your years in misery. It's not about seeing if she can take your checking account and run it into the ground (okay well there are some out there, but ask your friends and chances are they'll shoot you straight as to whether or not you have a gold digger on your hands.)
She wants far more then the shallow things then that which fear whispers to you, keeping you the perpetual single. In order to have a meaningful love life, you'll have to move past the whispers that keep everyone else bound and disillusioned. That will require responsibility on your part. It will require you to grow up and to be the man who faces intimacy with courage. Are you up for the task?
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