Games, we’ve been playing them since we were children and as adults we still play these games. Except as adults are games have become interestingly complex. Mommy’s pissed at daddy, she ignores him. Mommy spent too much money on shoe shopping, daddy yells and then spaces out into countless hours of football watching. Singles, well it becomes even trickier. You dance with the guy at the bar, just to make the guy you really want jealous? What?
A 5 year old would say, “Well mommy & daddy just say you’re sorry like you tell me to do.” A 10 year old would tell the Single, “Duh if you like the boy then just tell him.. Sheesh!” To children it’s probably common sense what we should do, but we as adults assure ourselves that these complex games are the proper antidote.
Someone recently asked me to write about “Where games stop and true unconditional love commitment begins….” Face it, to some degree we all play games, but I’m convinced we can all agree that the games are tiresome and often produce very fickle results. So why do we play these games? Why don’t we just talk it out, why not communicate how we feel?
We get hurt, we’re afraid of rejection, we sometimes feel so trapped we’re not sure how to communicate anymore, our anger gets the best of us so we don’t dare give our hearts a chance to speak and so the list goes on. I love being transparent, I love sharing how I feel, I often feel like it’s too much. In my dream world I would freely be able to communicate all that my heart feels. Reality is it’s not always the best idea, especially when someone doesn’t know how to handle it or when they’re not a safe person to do so with.
The truth is we have to remain vulnerable in this journey of love. When we find ourselves in situations where we feel compelled to constantly play games we must re-think where we are and if we want to stay in that position. Unconditional love takes its place where there is safety, where there is courage to break away from the lies and when we fight to remain true to our hearts.
Though we may all continue to play games for the sake of “self preservation”, there’s a fine line when playing games becomes our way of existence in dating & relationships. For me I prefer truth. Sure tease me with the chase, I get it, but ultimately I want truth, I want substance, I want real love. Oh you’ve got games? Consider exchanging the game pieces for love, honesty and genuine emotions.