I can assure you that this is one of my writings you won’t disagree with me on. Even if you think that my advice or writings are completely rubbish, bullocks or asinine, I can assure you that you’re head will be nodding up and down saying “Yes, yes Arica you are exactly right…for the love of God you are brilliant!!” Okay so the last part may be a bit exaggerated but you catch my drift.
Have you ever heard anyone say “You know I really don’t want that person to think to highly of me” when they’re either dating or in a relationship with someone? Or “You know as long as they can squeeze me in here and there, then I’m completely fine with that.” Face it, none of us want to be on bottom end of the totem pole when it comes to
being valued by the person we’re with or pursuing. We want the other person to appreciate us, we want them to value us.
Now as much as I’m a HUGE advocate of self love and really encouraging my readers and clients to press in on this topic, when it comes to being in a relationship with someone, despite how much you value yourself it hasto be reciprocated. When you find yourself in a relationship where you feel like the person doesn’t value you it can not only be frustrating, but disheartening.
So while I want to encourage you to not be some psycho maniac demanding everyone to value you and make you the priority, I do want you to select people who can match the same self love and value you carry for yourself. Most of the time you’ll attract what’s already going on inside of you, so if you do well at valuing yourself, chances are the other person will mirror that. But if you find yourself in a situation where the person struggles with holding significant value for you, what do you do?
You’d be surprised with how your answer to that will affect the remainder of your relationship. The commonality that we all share as human beings whether you have a penis or vagina is this.. we all want to be valued, seen, known, understood. And don’t tell me your beyond that as I’ll call you out on your BS. It doesn’t make you weak, too soft, or needy. It makes you human. So value yourself, but make sure you’re in a relationship where the person expresses the very same.