Being a dating/relationship coach I can’t tell you how many times I get asked from other guys, “So have you read the book ________” or have you read “_________ by _______” and my answer is typically a big fat “NO”. I’ve become a bit nicer with my response, but really it’s annoyed the hell out of me. The books they’re referring to are Pick Up Artists books that teach men how to get “in” with women.
The problem is once these guys get “in” they don’t know what the heck to do once there. So they try these antics, these games on women that typically involve manipulation, games and just silly bullshit that most smart women see right through. Have you ever seen the movie “Hitch” with Will Smith? Well you know the scumbag who just wants to get “laid” and Hitch refuses to work with him. Well yah that pretty much sums up how I feel about the antics and the people who are so desperate to use them.
Do you know that there are guys out there that actually
pay how to get “laid”? So focused on the next “lay” they never actually get to connect with someone because there always on the chase. I don’t know about you, but when I chase something, I want to catch it and enjoy it. But these McDonald style daters who want quick, cheap fixes continue with their antics and are typically bone dry when it comes to actual love.
Love what a concept.
Last night I was so excited as a Dating Coach, because one of my clients had a major breakthrough. It was huge and I celebrated like a little kid over his big win. Do you think he got that big win with some lame, cheesy, over rehearsed techniques he pulled out of some stupid pick up artist book?
Of course not because the coaching we’ve done together, yes it takes a team in coaching, was done through a whole different route. A way that actually connects a real man with what he really wants. Guys who are stuck on McDonald’s drive thru meals aren’t the kind of guys I want to date. No, but a man who knows how to enjoy and savor a nice filet steak, now there’s a man of substance and class. A man beautiful women actually want to date.