First dates, what do you do with them? Do you just wing them? Do you slowly and methodically think them out? Or do you just show up hoping that things work out? Well chances are if you’re a woman, just showing up is completely out of the equation. Most women will have their outfits planned out far in advance and will have spoken to at least 2-3 of their girlfriends about who they’re going on the date with, where they are going and what they are most looking forward to.
But most of the time, the first date responsibilities lie with the gentleman. He’s going to be the one coordinating where the two will eat, if he’ll pick her up and what time they’ll meet, on top of that, if he’s smart he’ll even pick out an outfit that shows how dapper he really is. And this is all just the beginning of it. You then have to consider conversation, what will keep the evening going and what are your hopes for the date. To just go and wing the date isn’t always the best plan.
Some of my best dates have been with gentleman who actually took the time to really plan the entire evening out thoroughly. Simple things like asking the lady what type of food she prefers, what style of restaurants she prefers and then coordinating from there can really set you both up for a fantastic evening. I’m not a big fan of chinese food, so if a guy asked me out and then arranged for us to eat chinese food, all without asking me will needlessly set us up for a disappointing evening. Being a woman who knows what she wants, when I incur the opposite I’m not always in the most favorable of moods. Grant it you make the best out of situations, but consideration really does go a long way.
Gentleman planning really does make your lady feel special, so make sure the next time you go out on your first date that you really put some thought into it. Give her that reason to want to go on the 2nd date as opposed to going back and forth about seeing you another time. When you nail it on the first date, chances are anything beyond that will be easy sailing as you have set a precedence as a man who knows what he’s doing and knows how to make a lady happy.
First dates can be a blast if you go out of your way to make them happen!
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