Whenever you’re out dating, do you ever wonder what are the things that are costing you? The things that are sabotaging you? Wouldn’t it be really nice to have someone,perhaps previous people you’ve dated say to you “Hey I was really interested in you, but you did ________ and that’s what really turned me off, it’s what caused me to move on.” How much time would that save you? How much money and expendable emotions could you save if someone would just point out to you where you’ve been screwing up?
Last week I had the pleasure of shooting a video for men with a fellow Dating Coach who works with men in all realms of dating. In that video I shared a very valuable secret that came from my own experience in dating, one that I know will help lots of men in their dating endeavors. It’s the one secret that the men of my past probably are still hitting their heads over. In fact, I’ve even told them where they messed up when they tried to pursue me again and that I had indeed moved on.
If I told you that I’ve said this only once it may not be as big of a deal, but what if I told I’ve said this many times. Meaning I’ve sat down with many of the guys in my past dating experiences and said “Listen, I really liked you, but unfortunately you really lacked ____________ and because of that, I moved on and I’ve met someone else.” Can you imagine how these guys felt? I mean here they were sharing with me how much they liked me, how much they wanted to pursue something with me and I had to let them down all over one word.
This one word has actually become my pet peeve when dating men. I’ve developed very little room for tolerance over this topic and when I witness it, it is then that I typically have moved these men into my “friends zone”. Now you’re probably wondering “Arica what the heck is the word?? Tell me because I might be doing the same exact thing!!!” Chances are, you are doing this and its keeping you from meeting the person of your dreams.
The word? Inconsistent. ”Wait, how can this one word be costing me in meeting the woman, the man of my dreams?” Well I’ll tell you. If you think getting the person you want by:
I’m sure you have many excuses that revolve around why you’re so busy and that there are other pressing matters that consume your attention, but the truth of the matter is that Mr./Ms. Consistent has come behind you and won your prize. So when you do finally find the time to do your proper follow up, the person you’re hoping to win over has already been won.
Listen up, if you think being inconsistent is serving you in your dating, you’re wrong, dead wrong. I have countless men that are now just my friends because of their inconsistency. Don’t be put into the “friend zone” develop consistency and implement it now.