Rules, rules, rules!! I personally hate rules and I love to break them. I secretly admire those who challenge the rules, who break the rules and those who are risqué enough to invent their own. People who are committed to the rules oftentimes bore me to tears as I want to slap them in the face and say “Wake up and live a little!!” Even when I disagree with them, those who are willing to break rules and stand for something, I find myself consistently drawn to.
In dating, you’ll hear people share all sorts of made up rules that are governed out of of some hidden book that none of us have actually held, yet we all seem to know what these rules are. If we don’t, then our friends are more than inclined to share them with us. Don’t text message the same day. Wait days to call. Don’t seem overly interested. Wait awhile before you schedule that next date.
In my opinion it’s all silliness. Anytime we walk away from who we are, how we do things and what we want to do, we’re buying into a fake system governed by rules that are never fulfilling. Dating comes from the inside, but when you try to do it from an outside perspective of someone who found something that works for them, so naturally they assume it should work for you, you are selling yourself short.
Why not break the rules in dating? Venture out and be an original. You want to call her right away because you’re excited, then call her. You really enjoyed yourself on the date? Well then share that with the person you dated. As opposed to holding out on your personality, why not share with them what makes you uniquely you… on the first date! Rather than waiting three dates into it to reveal that you have a personality, share that personality now.
Here’s an interesting concept I’d like to propose, why not be true to yourself while out dating? I know crazy right? Abandon the rule book and go with your gut, go with the real you? Risky business I know, but an interesting concept, don’t you think? The next time you go out on a date, I want you to bring the real you so much so that your friends will be asking “You did whaaaat?”