Dating can sometimes get pretty complicated. We think the process should be a simple one. Boy meets girl, boy asks girl out, boy and girl go out for dinner and they live happily after! Most singles out there would only hope that the process was this easy, but truth be told when personalities, hang ups and our issues come into play, we take a process that has A+B= C and make it into A2 X B5 + D12 = Ahhh hell I don’t know!
When things get complicated we then find ourselves in ruts. You’ll see people get into bad cycles of dating, the horror stories start pouring out and they end up hitting their head against the wall frustrated as they find themselves stuck. Have you ever been in a dating rut? Set in the hamster wheel of dating the wrong people? Endless dates that bore you to tears? Stuck because you feel like you’ve met everyone you can meet and now you’re wondering that it may not be them, but you?
When we find ourselves stuck we tend to want to give up. We throw in the towel. We become cynical. Sometimes we can even feel victimized by it all. So what do you do when you’re in a dating rut and you feel stuck? Perhaps you’re even in a relationship where you feel like its going no where, yet you’re not sure what to do about it. Do you leave? Do you stay and try to work it out?
Here’s the deal, when we feel stuck it’s not really the situation at hand, but it’s what’s going on above our shoulders. Our perception, our view on our situation can keep us enslaved. We begin to question ourselves wondering if there’s any hope for us. What’s really true? Is this love thing for everyone else but you?
Believe it or not, there are simple answers. Countless singles have found themselves in the same strenuous cycle of dating blunders. Know that your perception is whats keeping you entangled. If you could see that the dating world is not out to get you, the opposite sex is not your enemy and that love is actually not cruel as it seems to hide itself from you, then you would know that things are realistically working in your favor behind the scenes if only you would shift your perspective.
When we get caught up into our dating worlds watching it spin out of control, sometimes there’s nothing better then to get an outside perspective to see what’s going on and to direct us on how to make the significant changes. Check into my Coaching page if you’re one of the ones who need that assistance to help bring the shift you feel you need. If you’re needing material to read to help get you started, my book Dating with a Point is an easy read that will help you shake things up and begin to get you in the process of moving forward past your perspective thats keeping you bound. Your perspective changing is that simple shift that causes significant changes. Cheers to your love journey!