You know the scenario, male, female all alike we go through the scenario. You go on the date, you meet the opposite sex, you think you hit it off and then nothing. They don’t call back, they never text back, it’s like poof! and they’ve disappeared! Where did they go? What happened? Was it something you said? Perhaps it was the outfit you were wearing? Was it the conversation? Maybe the lipstick on your teeth? Maybe she saw the piece of garlic hanging from your teeth?
More than often we go into a panic. ”It was me, I screwed something up. I did something wrong! Why can’t I just get my shit together?” We internalize the whole conversation, over analyze ourselves and put ourselves in the ultimate self destructive cycle. Hold on to your britches because all of this quite frankly isn’t necessary.
Today on Facebook I shared “Dates come and go, whatever the case may be never allow rejection to shake your identity. Remember you were good before the date and after they didn’t call or text you back. Peoples responses to you are not the cornerstone of who you are.” Here’s the thing, every person you meet isn’t always going to be the “right” one. That would be so overwhelming if every one was the “right” person for you. Sometimes it’s just not going to work out.
When they don’t respond it does not mean you are unlovable, unworthy and not accepted. It simply means the relationship, the person you were looking to date isn’t a match. Plain and simple. All of the over analyzing is pure torture. Did you hear me, it’s torture and it’s self-torture at that. We’re focusing on loving ourselves, so when we throw ourselves into cycles of torment it is the opposite of love.
Let it go. Move on. Love yourself enough to not go through the self habits of brutally tearing yourself apart. Remember life is in constant movement, so do just that. Keep moving. Holding onto something that you cannot explain yet demand answers for is a mean trick we play on ourselves. It’s not serving you and it’s not serving your future love life. You’re lovable, you’re accepted and this no call back is not the end of the world. Keep moving and love you for who you are along the way.