When it comes to knowing our hearts, we all pretty much have it down, right? Wrong. You ask people the hard questions like what they really want in a companion, what’s the most important thing their companion must possess and what they plan to do to be the best person their future companion will absolutely adore and 9 out of 10 times they won’t have a clue!
Most singles are just waiting around for it to happen. You know one day they’re going to stumble in that grocery store and wham! lo and behold the person of their dreams will magically appear! So you see tons and tons of singles doing just that, waiting and hoping. Answering the important questions don’t even cross their minds, they just think that the magic of fate will do his job and they’ll eat chocolate covered strawberries and wait in the mean time.
That dating plan has “Waiting Forever” written all over it. I know a person that has been single for quite some time, you know to the point where their age bracket says “You should be married by now” and thats by LA terms. But this person doesn’t have a clue! They do dating aimlessly with no direction in sight and then when you ask them “So ummm, why are you still single?”, this person comes up with very nonchalant excuses which are far from valid.
Have you met a person like this before? Better yet…. are YOU that person? Are you just waiting for Mr. Right to come waltzing into your life or are you the guy hoping Mrs. Wonderful will magically appear. But as you’re sitting around waiting you watch another year go right before your eyes. You think “Perhaps, just maybe next year will be my year”, but the years proceed and your game plan of “waiting” is getting you no where?
First let me just say that you’re not alone and that there are plenty of wondering singles out there are abiding by the same game plan as you. But when is enough enough? When do you actually reach the point where you say “Okay this is it!! My methods aren’t working. I’m still single and alone and frankly I’m damn tired of it!
When you get to this point, the best thing you can do is implement a new game plan. That’s right, quit doing what you’re doing and start dating with a strategy. Now you may be asking, “Yah well that hasn’t worked either.” Each year you come up with that magical strategy of “I’m going to quit looking in bars”, “I’m going to give dating a break and see what comes my way” or “I’m going to date till I’m blue in the face”. Yet all of those strategies have failed you.
If you’re in that dilemma and the pain is too pressing that you seriously need a way out, then pat yourself on the back because you could be at a crossroad. If not, continue on with what you’re doing and get back with me next year and let me know how it worked for you? Chances are it won’t.
Let’s face it, you need a new game plan, changing things up isn’t going to kill you, in fact it may just change and shift things the way you want them. But are you ready? Are you really at the place to make the commitment to bring the change needed? Or does the fear of change keep you paralyzed and isolated.
The choice is always yours, but just know that every year doesn’t have to be the same. There is something you can do. If you ARE that person who says, yes Arica, I’m ready for the change but I don’t know what to do, I want you to write to me here and in the message portion say “Yes Arica I want change!”. You’ll be contacted with some action steps that will be required of you, but will get you on the road for that change. Don’t wait, do it right now. Arica I want change!
I look forward to hearing from you!