Are you waiting to become that perfect person before you start dating? You know you see areas in your life that need change, so you tell yourself that you’ll wait awhile, clean up the mess and then you’ll be ready. Well good luck with that. The truth is who you are right now is enough and if you’re waiting for your perfection to play its course, you’ll be waiting forever.
Now let me really twist and bend your mind a bit, you’re already perfect. What do I mean, in one sentence I’m saying you’ll never be perfect and in the next sentence I’m saying you’re already perfect. Sounds like a dichotomy right? Well I’m not going to totally give you that answer and my wish is that it provokes you in ways to explore what you’re
packing. Meaning what you have inside of you.
But the truth is you’re not hopeless. You actually have things inside of you that are already rocking, sure there may need to be some polishing that needs to take place, but your small image of yourself should never stop you from taking action. When I started writing about dating I didn’t have it all figured out and I was by far from perfect. But… I knew that I had a wealth of information to share that was built up inside of me that needed to be shared.
When I started writing about dating, I was two years out of my divorce and was still about jaded love and relationships. My hope and dreams of what marriage looked like were tainted. There were areas of me that were still broken and frustrated. So why on earth would I encourage people to date if I felt such disappointment about relationships?
Well my ultimate goal was never to talk about relationships (boy have things changed), but to encourage people how to get out there and date. Not only date, but to date with confidence and successfully. Now that I was good at. While my friends seemed to attract a lot of guys with drama, I had a gift for getting the guys I wanted and if I dated someone I didn’t want, then I created a learning experience out of it. No date was wasted.
All that to say, I was still far from perfect when this journey began five years ago. You may see yourself as far from perfect and so you’ve hidden behind that excuse. You refuse to date, you study about dating, but you’re not dating. What’s up with that? Why are you holding out? Don’t you realize there are people out there waiting to encounter you? Chances are you don’t have a clue, so let me enlighten you. THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE WAITING TO ENCOUNTER YOU. You hiding out with fear, (yah I went there and just told you like it is) isn’t serving anyone. It’s not serving you, though you may think it is and it’s not serving the people waiting to meet you.
Quit waiting for your perfection, get out there and date!