When meeting someone new, for some this can be the most treacherous of tasks. The idea of walking up to a total stranger can be so unnerving for some singles that they find themselves more inclined to avoid the whole scenario altogether. Unfortunately it’s the daunting task that must be done if we’re ever going to come out of our comfort zones and be able to meet new people.
Asking questions is really what it boils down to. When you ask questions it creates more of a sphere for conversation, as opposed to just giving a compliment. If you feel more comfortable giving a compliment initially, be sure to have questions to follow. For example, I’m quite comfortable with meeting new people, including guys in random places. So whilst out with the girls over the Labor Day weekend (which I trust all of you singles were out mingling as opposed to sitting at home watching tv) I spotted a guy that I found to be rather good looking. Immediately my girlfriends and I went into strategy mode.
Should we walk over there and be more in his area, or should we continue to walk around and scope out more of the premises, or should I let one of my girlfriends make the introduction? I found him to be actually quite attractive so I decided to waste no time “Ladies, I’ll be right back I’m going over there to talk to him.” He was on the phone and while I should’ve allowed him to finish his conversation, I decided to not waste anytime. After paying him a compliment (I thought he resembled David Beckham), to my surprise I realized there was a British accent. Living in England several years back, it was an easy lee way into conversation.
I allowed him to finish his phone conversation and returned to my friends. ”He had a British/English accent!”, to which they laughed (I have this gift that no matter where I am, I always seem to attract British men, I’m rather fond of the accent) and responded “Of course he did!” It’s as simple as that, walking up with confidence, asking a question or relaying over a compliment can be very easy icebreakers. The thing about questions is that you can have them written down even before you go out.
The thing is, you have to be willing to step out of your comfort zone. I’ve accumulated so many fascinating life experiences all because I was willing to step out and go past the fear zone. Sure there are times that I may get nervous, or instead of jumping out there I exercise tactics before moving forward, but the important thing is I eventually move! Movement can be the simplest thing that can transpire interesting results. Staying put, hiding out will give you the same result every time, nothing.