Whenever I’ve had an exceptional workout session at the gym, I typically will think to myself “I owned that!”, meaning I dominated, I kicked butt and that I’m really proud of myself. It’s a confidence that I really enjoy feeling and really do my best to create those moments as often as I possibly can. I love feeling victorious and powerful, not only with working out, but in all aspects of my life.
How often do you hear people sharing this sort of confidence when out dating or in their relationships? When is the last time one of your friends have gone on a date and came back saying “I owned that date!”. Instead you may hear the say things like “Ugh, why did I say that?”, “Did I really wear the right outfit?”, “Why didn’t I kiss them?” In fact, you may even find it a bit odd if your friend did walk in exclaiming this sort of expression.
When dating, let me make it very clear to you, having a defeatist mentality will never serve you. It’s not attractive, we’re innately drawn to people who are confident and that have good energy. If ever I’m out and am on the lookout for someone that I may find interesting, I expect that person to walk tall with confidence, I want them to feel comfortable talking with me. If they’re looking down at their shoes while doing their best to minimize their eye contact with me, they won’t be someone I’ll take serious for dating material, but more like someone that I’d want to schedule a coaching session with.
As a man, conquering is something that is attractive and very becoming when worn properly. For women, it’s so sexy for a woman to wear her sexuality with such elegance and strength to match it superbly. Heads hanging low, wearing welcome mats that say “walk all over me” and displaying characteristics of unworthiness can be either repulsive or leave the other person in a state of feeling pity for you as opposed to an attraction.
Make sure that you’re dating out of a victorious place. If you feel like you’re not in that space, fake it until you make it and put for the effort to create change, but whatever you do, don’t stay there. ”I own you!”, now that’s something you want to feel and think after your next date!