Crushed. "Press or squeeze (someone or something) with force or violence, typically causing serious damage or injury."
That's how webster defines the word crushed. Sounds just like your heart after it's gone through a break up right?
Pretty precise if you ask me. If you've been getting my weekly emails (sign up for them at http://www.aricaangelo.com/) then you've been getting all the nitty gritty details about how to handle a break up.
Break ups are no joke and not a laughing matter.
When someone goes through a break up, my heart immediately turns to compassion towards them because I deeply understand the pain and the cost it is to go through a break up. Your whole world gets turned upside down and on top of that, simple tasks like breathing sometimes become very hard.
Recently I've had lots of women reach out to me about break ups and then after totaling my car this past Memorial Day weekend, the heartache thing rang all too close to me.
I've had my fair share of break ups, I asked for each and every single one of them, however it never made any of them easier. The last one felt so bad that I found myself on anxiety medication. Grant it I had some major life things going on at the time, but when I say sometimes it's hard to breathe after a break up... I LITERALLY mean it's hard to breathe.
Listen there's no easy method to handling a break up. They're messy as hell. There are things that I've done well after my break ups like love on myself, care for myself and remind myself how incredibly valuable I really am. And then I've royally screwed it up, like kissing on a random stranger in front of my ex because I thought he was ignoring me to be cruel. (How stupid can a grown woman be after a break up? Pretty damn stupid!)
Point is they're difficult, there's not any "Take 2 of these and call me in the morning" sort of remedies out there. However there are very practical things that you can do and should do.
The first is to remind yourself of what makes you valuable. Break ups have a funny way of showing you where you're a loser, where you're a fool, where you've messed everything up. Those are the poisonous thoughts you want to avoid. Take the time needed and remind yourself what is actually right about you. Where you are beautiful and what makes you special.
Do it or spend the rest of your days sulking and staying in the pit longer then necessary.
Take this one day at a time. For a practical guide to help you walk out your broken heart, be sure to get my book "Struttin Your Way Through a Broken Heart". Click HERE.